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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 101784" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>I do think that communicating with sibs was the biggest reason we didn't fight and argue. I was up front from day one about what I was doing and what the expectations were. If any of them had a problem they were free to take over the chore. I gave them frequent financial updates on dad's health and finances. Nothing left to wonder or gossip about. </p><p>I threatened to haunt them if they ever accused me of mishandling funds or using them for anyone but dad. </p><p>They were grateful that someone took the brunt of the responsibility and were more than happy to do their part. </p><p>I think all of us were reasonable and I worked hard to keep the emotional component turned way down. No one is getting rich on what your mom has or my dad. It's not worth alienating my sibs. </p><p>Keeping things clear so that concern over mom's health and well being are not confused with her pitiful SSI. </p><p></p><p>Good luck. It is really a fine line we walk with adult siblings and aging parents. Just ask yourself "what the right thing for mom" and go from there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 101784, member: 3"] I do think that communicating with sibs was the biggest reason we didn't fight and argue. I was up front from day one about what I was doing and what the expectations were. If any of them had a problem they were free to take over the chore. I gave them frequent financial updates on dad's health and finances. Nothing left to wonder or gossip about. I threatened to haunt them if they ever accused me of mishandling funds or using them for anyone but dad. They were grateful that someone took the brunt of the responsibility and were more than happy to do their part. I think all of us were reasonable and I worked hard to keep the emotional component turned way down. No one is getting rich on what your mom has or my dad. It's not worth alienating my sibs. Keeping things clear so that concern over mom's health and well being are not confused with her pitiful SSI. Good luck. It is really a fine line we walk with adult siblings and aging parents. Just ask yourself "what the right thing for mom" and go from there. [/QUOTE]
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