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<blockquote data-quote="Ephchap" data-source="post: 101796" data-attributes="member: 27"><p>Jog,</p><p></p><p>I totally understand as I have been going through similar circumstances with my mom.</p><p></p><p>She lived alone after my dad passed away. I had just about convinced her to move into a brand new senior apartment (independent living, but they have since added on an assisted living wing as well), when my difficult child brother got divorced and moved in with her.</p><p></p><p>She stayed in that house and rarely went out. Her life revolved around my difficult child brother. When he fell off the wagon after 11 years of sobriety, things got really bad.</p><p></p><p>I eventually brought her to my house to stay for 3 months and then she agreed to the indepenent senior apartment building.</p><p></p><p>She has gone through some dementia and we're working through it, but it hasn't been easy.</p><p></p><p>In my mom's case, she had the money (thank you, dad) to be able to get ito something like she did, but I do know that there are government assisted places too - that base your "rent" on your income.</p><p></p><p>I'm sharing the story of my mom because I've seen a vast improvement in mom in many ways. Although the dementia has been scary, she's among people her own age. They have a dining room there and she has dinner with people every evening. Four days a week, she knows goes up to their exercise room and exercises. She takes the facility's van and goes to church once a week.</p><p></p><p>Having others around her has done wonders, not to mention the activities.</p><p></p><p>I agree with Fran that her bouncing from one place to another for such short stays is probably very hard on her, not to mention unsafe since she's being medicated and then not medicated.</p><p></p><p>Once you have a family meeting or conference call (and I totally agree that this is necessary), see if there is a senior health center that she can get an assessment at. I finally made an appointment for my mom at a large hospital near us that has a senior health center. She was seen by a gerantologist who is a specialist in dealing with the aged. They ran many tests on her, testing memory, etc. in addition to running a ct scan. There was a social worker that sat in on the family meeting with us before her appointment, and after - when they discussed the results. </p><p></p><p>It was very helpful to have a full evaluation done. </p><p></p><p>I understand your concern and know how hard it is to see your mom going downhill. If I can help in any way, feel free to PM me, even if it's just a shoulder to lean on.</p><p></p><p>Sending hugs your way,</p><p>Deb</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ephchap, post: 101796, member: 27"] Jog, I totally understand as I have been going through similar circumstances with my mom. She lived alone after my dad passed away. I had just about convinced her to move into a brand new senior apartment (independent living, but they have since added on an assisted living wing as well), when my difficult child brother got divorced and moved in with her. She stayed in that house and rarely went out. Her life revolved around my difficult child brother. When he fell off the wagon after 11 years of sobriety, things got really bad. I eventually brought her to my house to stay for 3 months and then she agreed to the indepenent senior apartment building. She has gone through some dementia and we're working through it, but it hasn't been easy. In my mom's case, she had the money (thank you, dad) to be able to get ito something like she did, but I do know that there are government assisted places too - that base your "rent" on your income. I'm sharing the story of my mom because I've seen a vast improvement in mom in many ways. Although the dementia has been scary, she's among people her own age. They have a dining room there and she has dinner with people every evening. Four days a week, she knows goes up to their exercise room and exercises. She takes the facility's van and goes to church once a week. Having others around her has done wonders, not to mention the activities. I agree with Fran that her bouncing from one place to another for such short stays is probably very hard on her, not to mention unsafe since she's being medicated and then not medicated. Once you have a family meeting or conference call (and I totally agree that this is necessary), see if there is a senior health center that she can get an assessment at. I finally made an appointment for my mom at a large hospital near us that has a senior health center. She was seen by a gerantologist who is a specialist in dealing with the aged. They ran many tests on her, testing memory, etc. in addition to running a ct scan. There was a social worker that sat in on the family meeting with us before her appointment, and after - when they discussed the results. It was very helpful to have a full evaluation done. I understand your concern and know how hard it is to see your mom going downhill. If I can help in any way, feel free to PM me, even if it's just a shoulder to lean on. Sending hugs your way, Deb [/QUOTE]
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