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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 673217" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I grew up in the Midwest and we would have been horrified to get $ in a sympathy card. After we moved to OK we had a few funerals and again would have been upset to get $ in a card. At least my folks would. I have mixed emotions about it. Money from a very close friend/relative AFTER they spoke to me about it would be okay. I also have an issue with sending flowers though. I think you should send something useful like a freezer meal and/or donate to a college/care fund for remaining kids or the wife. I had a friend who lost her dad while we were in high school and I was truly bothered by one thing. People spent huge sums of $ on flowers for the family but those are very short lived. What would truly have benefited my friend AND pleased her father would be if people deposited the cost of the flowers into an account for my friend's education or for her mom to pay off their home. My friend's father wanted her to go to college so very much, but she simply couldn't pay for it after he died. She worked hard and eventually was able to go but it as much later and harder as she had kids & a full time job y then. Her mother knew a florist and learned that given the number & size of arrangements sent, the cost of those flowers for the funeral would have paid for a year of tuition & fees at least (given the cost at our local state university). It was wonderful that people loved her dad so much but it makes me careful to show how I care by sending something that ill help, like a freezer meal (I can rarely afford to sent much $ but I a a good cookO</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 673217, member: 1233"] I grew up in the Midwest and we would have been horrified to get $ in a sympathy card. After we moved to OK we had a few funerals and again would have been upset to get $ in a card. At least my folks would. I have mixed emotions about it. Money from a very close friend/relative AFTER they spoke to me about it would be okay. I also have an issue with sending flowers though. I think you should send something useful like a freezer meal and/or donate to a college/care fund for remaining kids or the wife. I had a friend who lost her dad while we were in high school and I was truly bothered by one thing. People spent huge sums of $ on flowers for the family but those are very short lived. What would truly have benefited my friend AND pleased her father would be if people deposited the cost of the flowers into an account for my friend's education or for her mom to pay off their home. My friend's father wanted her to go to college so very much, but she simply couldn't pay for it after he died. She worked hard and eventually was able to go but it as much later and harder as she had kids & a full time job y then. Her mother knew a florist and learned that given the number & size of arrangements sent, the cost of those flowers for the funeral would have paid for a year of tuition & fees at least (given the cost at our local state university). It was wonderful that people loved her dad so much but it makes me careful to show how I care by sending something that ill help, like a freezer meal (I can rarely afford to sent much $ but I a a good cookO [/QUOTE]
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