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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 500071" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>That is not unusual when they first get out of rehab. My difficult child was smoking pot during her IOP also and was eventually kicked out. She also started hanging out with the ex boyfriend when she got out and he was a horrible influence. He was picking her up from work and they were smoking pot in his car. </p><p></p><p>I thought that by going to rehab she would be cured (not really but you know what I mean). I had no idea it was just the first step in her recovery. Had I known that I probably wouldn't have been so excited about spending $25,000 for it. </p><p></p><p>The book I recommended on this forum is an excellent one to help you understand addiction and what parents need to know to help their addicts. The sequel to that book is written for parents whose children are new into recovery. Listen to this...it was a real eye opener to me:</p><p></p><p>"People begin to recover from their ddictions when they are ready to try to change their lives." Obviously your son is not ready. Neither was my daughter when she first got out of rehab and she radily admits that now.</p><p></p><p>"The journey can be said to begin when an addicted individual starts to make healthy choices." He is not making healthy choices yet by hanging with this homeless girl. My difficult child was not either by going right back to her using ex.</p><p></p><p>"When the addiction is active, families should step away. When recovery is under way, they should move closer." Your son's addiction is active.</p><p></p><p>"In reality, because addiction is a chronic disorder, the ultimate goal of long-term abstinence often requires sustained and repeated treatment episodes."</p><p></p><p>"The effects of treatment are cumulative, and with every treatment episode and relapse, patients learn something about themselves and their addiction. What was gained intreatment is not lost--even though it may be put on the bck burner for a while."</p><p></p><p>Those are just a few samples of what this book discusses.</p><p></p><p>I am afraid you may have to follow through on the eviction process. You drew the line in the sand and it is important to follow through and let your son know he has crossed that line. It does not mean that you don't love your son, it means that you are willing to do what you need to do to bring his bottom up and hopefully get him to break through his denial so that he can begin the recovery process again.</p><p></p><p>If he continues with this behavior it is only a matter of time before he gets suspended from school, kicked out of IOP, and get arrested. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry. I have been there done that and it hurts a lot. But this is the time you and husband need to be strong and be willing to let him fall before he can get up again.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 500071, member: 59"] That is not unusual when they first get out of rehab. My difficult child was smoking pot during her IOP also and was eventually kicked out. She also started hanging out with the ex boyfriend when she got out and he was a horrible influence. He was picking her up from work and they were smoking pot in his car. I thought that by going to rehab she would be cured (not really but you know what I mean). I had no idea it was just the first step in her recovery. Had I known that I probably wouldn't have been so excited about spending $25,000 for it. The book I recommended on this forum is an excellent one to help you understand addiction and what parents need to know to help their addicts. The sequel to that book is written for parents whose children are new into recovery. Listen to this...it was a real eye opener to me: "People begin to recover from their ddictions when they are ready to try to change their lives." Obviously your son is not ready. Neither was my daughter when she first got out of rehab and she radily admits that now. "The journey can be said to begin when an addicted individual starts to make healthy choices." He is not making healthy choices yet by hanging with this homeless girl. My difficult child was not either by going right back to her using ex. "When the addiction is active, families should step away. When recovery is under way, they should move closer." Your son's addiction is active. "In reality, because addiction is a chronic disorder, the ultimate goal of long-term abstinence often requires sustained and repeated treatment episodes." "The effects of treatment are cumulative, and with every treatment episode and relapse, patients learn something about themselves and their addiction. What was gained intreatment is not lost--even though it may be put on the bck burner for a while." Those are just a few samples of what this book discusses. I am afraid you may have to follow through on the eviction process. You drew the line in the sand and it is important to follow through and let your son know he has crossed that line. It does not mean that you don't love your son, it means that you are willing to do what you need to do to bring his bottom up and hopefully get him to break through his denial so that he can begin the recovery process again. If he continues with this behavior it is only a matter of time before he gets suspended from school, kicked out of IOP, and get arrested. I am so sorry. I have been there done that and it hurts a lot. But this is the time you and husband need to be strong and be willing to let him fall before he can get up again. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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