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More drug problems, just one week after rehab
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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 500099" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>If Illinois is like Georgia, it will take time to evict him. I can't remember exactly but I think in Georgia it was 30 days from the date of notification. You will have to go to court so that will probably mean that he will have until the end of February before he has to move out at the earliest. At that point there is only 3 months left until he graduates. You could tell him that you have started the eviction process but will re-evaluate after every 30 days and let him stay until he graduates if he is going to school and his outpatient therapy. I don't know if there is a way to do that legally but you could check into it.</p><p></p><p>You would have to give up on the control of most things if you decide to let him stay, though. I don't think that you will be able stop him from seeing his girlfriend or smoking pot. The best thing that you can probably hope for is for something from the outpatient treatment to start sinking in. </p><p></p><p>Also, telling him that you have started the eviction process will probably escalate his defiance and make things at home even more unpleasant than they are now.</p><p></p><p>I guess that you can say that we were lucky that our difficult child stole from us. We were able to avoid the eviction process but telling her that her choice was to leave immediately or we would prosecute. She chose to leave.</p><p></p><p>I agree that whatever you decide you and your husband will need to take a united stand or it will tear apart your marriage and won't solve anything for your difficult child. Remember that your difficult child will grow up and leave you eventually on good terms or bad terms but you have potentially 30 or more years of marriage ahead of you.</p><p></p><p>You don't have any easy decisions to make but we are here to support you no matter what you and your husband decide.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 500099, member: 1967"] If Illinois is like Georgia, it will take time to evict him. I can't remember exactly but I think in Georgia it was 30 days from the date of notification. You will have to go to court so that will probably mean that he will have until the end of February before he has to move out at the earliest. At that point there is only 3 months left until he graduates. You could tell him that you have started the eviction process but will re-evaluate after every 30 days and let him stay until he graduates if he is going to school and his outpatient therapy. I don't know if there is a way to do that legally but you could check into it. You would have to give up on the control of most things if you decide to let him stay, though. I don't think that you will be able stop him from seeing his girlfriend or smoking pot. The best thing that you can probably hope for is for something from the outpatient treatment to start sinking in. Also, telling him that you have started the eviction process will probably escalate his defiance and make things at home even more unpleasant than they are now. I guess that you can say that we were lucky that our difficult child stole from us. We were able to avoid the eviction process but telling her that her choice was to leave immediately or we would prosecute. She chose to leave. I agree that whatever you decide you and your husband will need to take a united stand or it will tear apart your marriage and won't solve anything for your difficult child. Remember that your difficult child will grow up and leave you eventually on good terms or bad terms but you have potentially 30 or more years of marriage ahead of you. You don't have any easy decisions to make but we are here to support you no matter what you and your husband decide. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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