Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
More musings, but from an upright position......
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 646461" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Thanks everyone, I appreciate your responses. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>My husband and I needed to make room in our lives when difficult child was in full swing........we took a drive to 'anywhere' every single weekend. Those trips became my lifeline to sanity and our special time together. We would talk about difficult child for a little while and as the distance from home increased, we would let it go and start to enjoy the day. I look back on those times as the balancing point in the chaos our lives were in then. They were extremely important.</p><p></p><p>Tanya, your path mirrors mine in many ways, from the weekend drives to explore together, to the initial guilt of not having life revolve anymore around our kids, to the recognition of the absolute joy in the moment and grabbing it and running with it. And, we travel as much as we can too.......</p><p></p><p><em>"I believe all of us have our own mix of uniqueness which we can blend into our own talents. The world is not only a better place for our diversity, it needs our diversity. Diversity also offers infinite combinations for appreciation, enjoyment and fun!"</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>HLM</em>, I believe that too. Jerry also has been a meditator for 40 years, which makes him even more interesting to me.</p><p></p><p>At one point in my life I worked with people who were dying. A number of them managed to move to a special place of acceptance which was remarkably beautiful to be around. We talked a lot about their perceptions of how life is to be lived, from the vantage point of someone who is having to let go of life. I learned a lot from them and I made a choice at that time to NOT wait until I was dying to appreciate life, to not wait until I was dying to accept life, to not wait until I was dying to enjoy each moment. I can see how facing cancer can pull one out of the everyday stuff and catapult one to a different ability to enjoy life. However we get there, it's a gift to open your eyes to the moment and to grab it and squeeze every bit of joy from it.</p><p></p><p>All of this stuff I went through with my daughter has made me a person who is pretty present in life, pretty present in the moment. That presence keeps a lot of the extraneous thinking that circulates around my brain from gaining entry, so I am not dragged around by my own thoughts which go nowhere. In that regard, all that I've gone through has been a gift. It took me to a place of extreme pain...........and in my refusal to suffer, it released me. What a journey.</p><p></p><p>I saw my daughter yesterday. Both husband and I continue to be amazed at her level of calmness. She has worked through something in herself and she is exhibiting a peacefulness and serenity. Perhaps she has accepted herself and where she is. I have accepted where she is. And, as I drove away, I was left with the smile on her face, just an easy smile. Who knows what tomorrow will bring, but, for today, that smile really works for me.</p><p></p><p>There is a lot of pain on these pages and at times I hesitate to post about joy and peace and the enjoyment of life.........I just want folks to know there is life after difficult child, that we can evolve to a place where the antics of another do not have to rip us apart and take us down. There are tools, there are options, there are ways to traverse this landscape and come out the other side. </p><p></p><p>I am in the happiest time of my life. There are many new possibilities showing up which didn't have room to expand and grow when I was entrenched in the drama of my difficult child's life. Those doors are swinging open HLM, the possibilities are clearer. It is a lot of fun to explore, to dream, to have that sense of wonder and awe......... excitement about traveling, writing.........feeling free to go out in that vast universe and have some serious fun.</p><p></p><p>We also spotted other trips to Ireland, to Australia, wow, now we are having to choose, China? Ireland? Where to go? It's a lot of fun to be looking at it all. Just the freedom in it. husband is the greatest playmate, the most fun guy, he cracks me up every single day, we also travel very well together...........we love road trips, we love flying somewhere.........we are both always on the same page about it all, I plan the trips and then he takes over once we get there, with the itinerary. Works out splendidly. Yesterday we watched the sun go down over the Golden Gate Bridge, from the headlands..........always a spectacular site.........then dinner in a funky Mexican restaurant which has amazing food. Life is good. </p><p></p><p>Thanks for sharing your fun times. We have a lot to be thankful for!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 646461, member: 13542"] Thanks everyone, I appreciate your responses. My husband and I needed to make room in our lives when difficult child was in full swing........we took a drive to 'anywhere' every single weekend. Those trips became my lifeline to sanity and our special time together. We would talk about difficult child for a little while and as the distance from home increased, we would let it go and start to enjoy the day. I look back on those times as the balancing point in the chaos our lives were in then. They were extremely important. Tanya, your path mirrors mine in many ways, from the weekend drives to explore together, to the initial guilt of not having life revolve anymore around our kids, to the recognition of the absolute joy in the moment and grabbing it and running with it. And, we travel as much as we can too....... [I]"I believe all of us have our own mix of uniqueness which we can blend into our own talents. The world is not only a better place for our diversity, it needs our diversity. Diversity also offers infinite combinations for appreciation, enjoyment and fun!" HLM[/I], I believe that too. Jerry also has been a meditator for 40 years, which makes him even more interesting to me. At one point in my life I worked with people who were dying. A number of them managed to move to a special place of acceptance which was remarkably beautiful to be around. We talked a lot about their perceptions of how life is to be lived, from the vantage point of someone who is having to let go of life. I learned a lot from them and I made a choice at that time to NOT wait until I was dying to appreciate life, to not wait until I was dying to accept life, to not wait until I was dying to enjoy each moment. I can see how facing cancer can pull one out of the everyday stuff and catapult one to a different ability to enjoy life. However we get there, it's a gift to open your eyes to the moment and to grab it and squeeze every bit of joy from it. All of this stuff I went through with my daughter has made me a person who is pretty present in life, pretty present in the moment. That presence keeps a lot of the extraneous thinking that circulates around my brain from gaining entry, so I am not dragged around by my own thoughts which go nowhere. In that regard, all that I've gone through has been a gift. It took me to a place of extreme pain...........and in my refusal to suffer, it released me. What a journey. I saw my daughter yesterday. Both husband and I continue to be amazed at her level of calmness. She has worked through something in herself and she is exhibiting a peacefulness and serenity. Perhaps she has accepted herself and where she is. I have accepted where she is. And, as I drove away, I was left with the smile on her face, just an easy smile. Who knows what tomorrow will bring, but, for today, that smile really works for me. There is a lot of pain on these pages and at times I hesitate to post about joy and peace and the enjoyment of life.........I just want folks to know there is life after difficult child, that we can evolve to a place where the antics of another do not have to rip us apart and take us down. There are tools, there are options, there are ways to traverse this landscape and come out the other side. I am in the happiest time of my life. There are many new possibilities showing up which didn't have room to expand and grow when I was entrenched in the drama of my difficult child's life. Those doors are swinging open HLM, the possibilities are clearer. It is a lot of fun to explore, to dream, to have that sense of wonder and awe......... excitement about traveling, writing.........feeling free to go out in that vast universe and have some serious fun. We also spotted other trips to Ireland, to Australia, wow, now we are having to choose, China? Ireland? Where to go? It's a lot of fun to be looking at it all. Just the freedom in it. husband is the greatest playmate, the most fun guy, he cracks me up every single day, we also travel very well together...........we love road trips, we love flying somewhere.........we are both always on the same page about it all, I plan the trips and then he takes over once we get there, with the itinerary. Works out splendidly. Yesterday we watched the sun go down over the Golden Gate Bridge, from the headlands..........always a spectacular site.........then dinner in a funky Mexican restaurant which has amazing food. Life is good. Thanks for sharing your fun times. We have a lot to be thankful for! [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
More musings, but from an upright position......
Top