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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 159029" data-attributes="member: 99"><p><strong><em><span style="color: blue"></span></em></strong></p><p><strong><em><span style="color: blue"></span></em></strong></p><p><strong><em><span style="color: blue"></span></em></strong><span style="color: blue"><span style="color: Black">That is probably more than you can expect from a four year old to do unsupervised. I can't get my 48 year old husband to do it unsupervised.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: blue"><span style="color: Black"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: blue"><span style="color: Black">As you are not working and at home, you need to break it up into small groups, and be there to pleasantly supervise so that he can see that it's actually small jobs that <em>can</em> be done. "Let's see who can pick up the most socks for the basket!" "Who can get the pants into the basket first?" "I can pick up more toy cars than you!" No yelling or disappointment at his failures on your end. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: blue"><span style="color: Black"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: blue"><span style="color: Black">To expect a four year old to go into their room and pick up their toys and clothes and put them away on their own isn't age appropriate. Are you receiving any any state aid? You might benefit by contacting them or a local church or Salvation Army to see if they offer any parenting classes? It's probably hard to know what "age appropriate" behavior is when you don't have family nearby to guide you.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: blue"><span style="color: Black"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: blue"><span style="color: Black">Do you and your son participate in any type of therapy? You say he has ADHD but no medications. What is the reasoning for no medications? If there is trouble with funding, the best place to start is with the school district. Your son is old enough for "Head Start". The school district will have educational, medical, and therapeutic opportunities for you and your child. I hope that you will contact them and enroll him at the earliest possible moment. As you have no phone, you should be able to do this through the internet.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: blue"><span style="color: Black"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: blue"><span style="color: Black">A final word of advice, you seem to be at the point where you are dreading every moment with your son and expecting everything to go badly. For him and for you, you have to approach each day with the knowledge that not everything will go wrong, and that even the things that went wrong in the past have a chance of going right today. Negative thinking taints the way you approach him, and he absolutely knows it when you expect him to fail.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: blue"><span style="color: Black"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 159029, member: 99"] [B][I][COLOR=blue] [/COLOR][/I][/B][COLOR=blue][COLOR=Black]That is probably more than you can expect from a four year old to do unsupervised. I can't get my 48 year old husband to do it unsupervised. As you are not working and at home, you need to break it up into small groups, and be there to pleasantly supervise so that he can see that it's actually small jobs that [i]can[/i] be done. "Let's see who can pick up the most socks for the basket!" "Who can get the pants into the basket first?" "I can pick up more toy cars than you!" No yelling or disappointment at his failures on your end. To expect a four year old to go into their room and pick up their toys and clothes and put them away on their own isn't age appropriate. Are you receiving any any state aid? You might benefit by contacting them or a local church or Salvation Army to see if they offer any parenting classes? It's probably hard to know what "age appropriate" behavior is when you don't have family nearby to guide you. Do you and your son participate in any type of therapy? You say he has ADHD but no medications. What is the reasoning for no medications? If there is trouble with funding, the best place to start is with the school district. Your son is old enough for "Head Start". The school district will have educational, medical, and therapeutic opportunities for you and your child. I hope that you will contact them and enroll him at the earliest possible moment. As you have no phone, you should be able to do this through the internet. A final word of advice, you seem to be at the point where you are dreading every moment with your son and expecting everything to go badly. For him and for you, you have to approach each day with the knowledge that not everything will go wrong, and that even the things that went wrong in the past have a chance of going right today. Negative thinking taints the way you approach him, and he absolutely knows it when you expect him to fail. [/COLOR][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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