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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 286760" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Marg..........I'd love to have you stand next to me when I'm talking with doctor Ego.</p><p> </p><p>I know mother in law is insistant that nothing, absolutely nothing, be done to prolong her life. But doctor Ego released her today with no warning after she passed the evaluation given by psychiatrist. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /></p><p> </p><p>doctor Ego is determined not to listen to a word I say. </p><p> </p><p>On one hand I understand, because I understand mother in law's position on the matter. Her quality of life is nearly zero. The severe arthritis and broken hip (that won't be repaired) makes living a nitemare. But on the other hand it would be nice, or would've been nice to be certain of what we were dealing with before releasing her back to assisted living.</p><p> </p><p>mother in law went into full blown anxiety when she discovered she was to be discharged at 6pm. husband and I were majorly POed as we had not been told so were not prepared for her to be discharged. I had made big plans with the grandkids this evening to take them to a movie. husband had to get to bed early for work in the morning.</p><p> </p><p>So we talked to the RN, who called doctor Ego. Much to our shock, doctor Ego appeared in person to appease mother in law. Told her that if going home tonight caused her anxiety he could change it to morning. Explained to her the hospital wouldn't like it, but he could smooth it over and it would be ok. mother in law then changed her mind and decided to go home as all plans were made. So doctor Ego goes out to follow her wishes...........and he barely got out of the room and mother in law had husband chase him down to tell him she wanted to go in the morning. By them it was too late. Transport ambulance had been called and were on their way.</p><p> </p><p>So.....I got a wee bit ticked. mother in law had a perfect opportunity to go home in the morning like she wanted and threw it away. She knew I had plans to go to the movies with the grands at 7pm. And instinct told me she was going to try to weedle me into spending the night with her. (and I knew if I did it once, it would be a long term thing) I called easy child and told her to pick me up at the hospital. Told husband he could settle his mom into her room.</p><p> </p><p>husband was furious, but would not make a scene at hospital. (evil of me I know) mother in law understood and was ok with it. I kissed her, told her I loved her, reassured her the staff at assisted living would take good care of her......and high tailed it out of there.</p><p> </p><p>Evidently husband survived getting his mom settled back at assisted living, cuz Nichole said he was home by 7:30 pm.</p><p> </p><p>I'll check on her tomorrow. But I knew with the way her anxiety is right now......if I'd have skipped the movies and went with her........she'd be expecting similar behavior in the future.</p><p> </p><p>I've no doubt the staff where she is will be checking on her regularly as hospital advised them of the situation. If mother in law needs them, she can pull her cord which sets off the staff's beepers. doctor Ego told us and her that she can return to the hospital without hesitation if she feels it necessary.</p><p> </p><p>On a good note......psychiatrist gave her an anti anxiety medication....half dose due to her advanced age. So that ought to help some at least.</p><p> </p><p>Somedays I feel like I'm caught on a Merry Go Round. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 286760, member: 84"] Marg..........I'd love to have you stand next to me when I'm talking with doctor Ego. I know mother in law is insistant that nothing, absolutely nothing, be done to prolong her life. But doctor Ego released her today with no warning after she passed the evaluation given by psychiatrist. :angry: doctor Ego is determined not to listen to a word I say. On one hand I understand, because I understand mother in law's position on the matter. Her quality of life is nearly zero. The severe arthritis and broken hip (that won't be repaired) makes living a nitemare. But on the other hand it would be nice, or would've been nice to be certain of what we were dealing with before releasing her back to assisted living. mother in law went into full blown anxiety when she discovered she was to be discharged at 6pm. husband and I were majorly POed as we had not been told so were not prepared for her to be discharged. I had made big plans with the grandkids this evening to take them to a movie. husband had to get to bed early for work in the morning. So we talked to the RN, who called doctor Ego. Much to our shock, doctor Ego appeared in person to appease mother in law. Told her that if going home tonight caused her anxiety he could change it to morning. Explained to her the hospital wouldn't like it, but he could smooth it over and it would be ok. mother in law then changed her mind and decided to go home as all plans were made. So doctor Ego goes out to follow her wishes...........and he barely got out of the room and mother in law had husband chase him down to tell him she wanted to go in the morning. By them it was too late. Transport ambulance had been called and were on their way. So.....I got a wee bit ticked. mother in law had a perfect opportunity to go home in the morning like she wanted and threw it away. She knew I had plans to go to the movies with the grands at 7pm. And instinct told me she was going to try to weedle me into spending the night with her. (and I knew if I did it once, it would be a long term thing) I called easy child and told her to pick me up at the hospital. Told husband he could settle his mom into her room. husband was furious, but would not make a scene at hospital. (evil of me I know) mother in law understood and was ok with it. I kissed her, told her I loved her, reassured her the staff at assisted living would take good care of her......and high tailed it out of there. Evidently husband survived getting his mom settled back at assisted living, cuz Nichole said he was home by 7:30 pm. I'll check on her tomorrow. But I knew with the way her anxiety is right now......if I'd have skipped the movies and went with her........she'd be expecting similar behavior in the future. I've no doubt the staff where she is will be checking on her regularly as hospital advised them of the situation. If mother in law needs them, she can pull her cord which sets off the staff's beepers. doctor Ego told us and her that she can return to the hospital without hesitation if she feels it necessary. On a good note......psychiatrist gave her an anti anxiety medication....half dose due to her advanced age. So that ought to help some at least. Somedays I feel like I'm caught on a Merry Go Round. :faint: [/QUOTE]
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