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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 643286" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>You know what SS, we all have a story to tell. No one escapes life's struggles............you've certainly had your share and I'm sorry for that. You've had a long, hard road. I have a grown daughter who is homeless and I raised my granddaughter AND many of my bio family are mentally ill. I understand how tough it can be. And those of us who have lived through those kinds of things often have a lot of compassion and can offer support to others. I'm glad you found us. I'm glad you're here.</p><p></p><p>You might want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post. You also may want to read Codependent no more by Melodie Beattie. Some other books which really helped me were any books by Pema Chodron, Brene Brown and Eckhart Tolle. There is a lot to learn for us humans about living in chaos and uncertainty and finding our way to peace. A tall order but not an impossible one. </p><p></p><p>I'm glad you are entering counseling, that helped me enormously. You might want to try Al Anon or CoDa and encourage your daughter to do so as well. Those 12 step groups have helped a lot of people. </p><p></p><p>Our kids can go off the rails for any reason at all, even with the best parenting in the world. Like all of us, you did the best you could and when you knew better, you did better. That's all any of us can do. </p><p></p><p>From this point on, it will help you a lot if you begin to focus on yourself, make yourself and your recovery and healing from your past your priority. From that vantage point, you will be a better support for your daughters. And, you will model for them a person who loves themselves, accepts themselves and honors themselves. </p><p></p><p>Thanks for sharing your story with us SS, I hope the serenity you seek finds you.............blessings to you.........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 643286, member: 13542"] You know what SS, we all have a story to tell. No one escapes life's struggles............you've certainly had your share and I'm sorry for that. You've had a long, hard road. I have a grown daughter who is homeless and I raised my granddaughter AND many of my bio family are mentally ill. I understand how tough it can be. And those of us who have lived through those kinds of things often have a lot of compassion and can offer support to others. I'm glad you found us. I'm glad you're here. You might want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post. You also may want to read Codependent no more by Melodie Beattie. Some other books which really helped me were any books by Pema Chodron, Brene Brown and Eckhart Tolle. There is a lot to learn for us humans about living in chaos and uncertainty and finding our way to peace. A tall order but not an impossible one. I'm glad you are entering counseling, that helped me enormously. You might want to try Al Anon or CoDa and encourage your daughter to do so as well. Those 12 step groups have helped a lot of people. Our kids can go off the rails for any reason at all, even with the best parenting in the world. Like all of us, you did the best you could and when you knew better, you did better. That's all any of us can do. From this point on, it will help you a lot if you begin to focus on yourself, make yourself and your recovery and healing from your past your priority. From that vantage point, you will be a better support for your daughters. And, you will model for them a person who loves themselves, accepts themselves and honors themselves. Thanks for sharing your story with us SS, I hope the serenity you seek finds you.............blessings to you......... [/QUOTE]
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