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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 119332" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>{{{{{Hugs}}}}} Susan, I'm so sorry that your visit with our difficult child was terrible, but I suspect that deep inside you knew it would be.</p><p></p><p>It just doesn't seem to me as though your son has learned anything from being in jail yet. He's doing and saying things to manipulate you and pull at your heart, so that he can get his way.</p><p></p><p>Honestly, I think the best thing you can do for yourself, and ultimately for your son, is to stay away from him for a while. Don't take his calls, don't make phone calls or write letters or do anything else on his behalf, and most importantly, don't go and visit him in jail.</p><p></p><p>While he's in jail, you know that he's safe, has shelter and food, a firm structure, and NO ACCESS TO DRUGS. If you take any steps to get him out of jail when he's so clearly not ready, then you are enabling him to keep doing drugs, keep hurting you and keep hurting himself.</p><p></p><p>When you keep clear of your difficult child you sound so strong and full of joy, but everytime you go back he seems to drag all the life and joy out of you.</p><p></p><p>It's time to let go and let God.</p><p></p><p>Saying prayers for strength and peace for you, and sense for your son.</p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 119332, member: 3907"] {{{{{Hugs}}}}} Susan, I'm so sorry that your visit with our difficult child was terrible, but I suspect that deep inside you knew it would be. It just doesn't seem to me as though your son has learned anything from being in jail yet. He's doing and saying things to manipulate you and pull at your heart, so that he can get his way. Honestly, I think the best thing you can do for yourself, and ultimately for your son, is to stay away from him for a while. Don't take his calls, don't make phone calls or write letters or do anything else on his behalf, and most importantly, don't go and visit him in jail. While he's in jail, you know that he's safe, has shelter and food, a firm structure, and NO ACCESS TO DRUGS. If you take any steps to get him out of jail when he's so clearly not ready, then you are enabling him to keep doing drugs, keep hurting you and keep hurting himself. When you keep clear of your difficult child you sound so strong and full of joy, but everytime you go back he seems to drag all the life and joy out of you. It's time to let go and let God. Saying prayers for strength and peace for you, and sense for your son. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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