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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 431116" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Oh - and one more you will all get a laugh about:</p><p> </p><p>Ms Ally gave us a worksheet of parenting communication skills that we were supposed to be working on. It is part of her goal to change OUR behavior - thereby eventually changing difficult child's behavior. There were eight "hot button" issues that we are supposed to 'try and learn to avoid'....and some helpful tips as to how to do that.</p><p> </p><p>1) No Preaching (When I was your age.... or As long as you live under my roof...)</p><p>2) No Lecturing about chores instead just assigning them (I've told you a thousand times...)</p><p>3) No "labelling" or name-calling (you're worthless, lazy, useless..)</p><p>4) No Futurizing (you'll never amount to anything...)</p><p>5) Don't Offer Instant Solutions - listen first</p><p>6) Don't question teenage angst (what's gotten into you? What is your problem, anyway?..)</p><p>7) Be tolerant of experimental behavior (such as strange hairstyles or outfits)</p><p>8) Avoid insults and criticisms</p><p> </p><p>So...husband and I sat the kids down and asked them whether or not they ever heard us use these phrases...or call them names...</p><p>We went right down the list...and I noted their comments.</p><p> </p><p>For 6 out of 8 items - the children noted that it was not even an issue...it does not happen in our house.</p><p> </p><p>DS does feel that husband gives lectures about chores</p><p> </p><p>And BOTH kids agree that husband's "When I was you age..." stories are hilarious. They especially enjoy the part about "we ate dirt -and we LIKED it!". And that's how we tell them - as jokes. Walked to school barefoot, uphill both ways...all that stuff.</p><p> </p><p>So....</p><p> </p><p>I guess that goal was "accomplished".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 431116, member: 6546"] Oh - and one more you will all get a laugh about: Ms Ally gave us a worksheet of parenting communication skills that we were supposed to be working on. It is part of her goal to change OUR behavior - thereby eventually changing difficult child's behavior. There were eight "hot button" issues that we are supposed to 'try and learn to avoid'....and some helpful tips as to how to do that. 1) No Preaching (When I was your age.... or As long as you live under my roof...) 2) No Lecturing about chores instead just assigning them (I've told you a thousand times...) 3) No "labelling" or name-calling (you're worthless, lazy, useless..) 4) No Futurizing (you'll never amount to anything...) 5) Don't Offer Instant Solutions - listen first 6) Don't question teenage angst (what's gotten into you? What is your problem, anyway?..) 7) Be tolerant of experimental behavior (such as strange hairstyles or outfits) 8) Avoid insults and criticisms So...husband and I sat the kids down and asked them whether or not they ever heard us use these phrases...or call them names... We went right down the list...and I noted their comments. For 6 out of 8 items - the children noted that it was not even an issue...it does not happen in our house. DS does feel that husband gives lectures about chores And BOTH kids agree that husband's "When I was you age..." stories are hilarious. They especially enjoy the part about "we ate dirt -and we LIKED it!". And that's how we tell them - as jokes. Walked to school barefoot, uphill both ways...all that stuff. So.... I guess that goal was "accomplished". [/QUOTE]
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