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My 13 daughter is in boarding school and not sure what else to do
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<blockquote data-quote="dadside" data-source="post: 256655" data-attributes="member: 5707"><p>There is a wide range of boarding schools, and just because one says they take kids of a certain age, or with certain issues, or that use a certain philosophy in their program, means that they are effective with all the kids they take. That is true no matter how well meaning they may be, and not all operators are well meaning. The best places don't have 100% success, but they generally can get a pretty good "read" on a student in a short time.</p><p> </p><p>From what you wrote, my thought is that your daughter does belong in a therapeutic environment, but not the one she is now in. I suspect her current school is not therapeutically intense, and relies more on guided group behavior and activities. I think that may be appropriate for some kids who somehow lost their way, but is not the right mix for someone with the mental/thought issues you report she has.</p><p> </p><p>Frankly, I'd worry that bringing her home without time in a more therapeutically intensive program would be a big mistake. I don't know that I'd even wait until the end of the school year to make a change assuming credits wouldn't be lost. I know this sounds potentially unaffordable, especially with the commitments to your other children, but there are at least three possible funding sources to help. Sometimes, "scholarships" are available, and given the current economy some schools (maybe not ones suitable for your daughter, but I don't know) have offered some tuition reductions. Second, I hope you recognize that the tuition and some related cost is a tax-deductable expense, so that offsets some of the outlay. Also, it is quite possible that your local school district could be required to pay for her placement. </p><p> </p><p>The point on school district paying is not a "given" as you say she is doing well academically, but if you think she could be doing much better without the psychological (including behavioral) issues, a case might be made. [Also, have the good grades been just where she now is, or were they good before Feb 2008 as well?] At best, making that case would take a couple of months, and the process might drag for much longer. If you think there could be a chance, look at "IEP" eligibility. I'm sure there is info in the spec.ed. section (and/or archives) on this site.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dadside, post: 256655, member: 5707"] There is a wide range of boarding schools, and just because one says they take kids of a certain age, or with certain issues, or that use a certain philosophy in their program, means that they are effective with all the kids they take. That is true no matter how well meaning they may be, and not all operators are well meaning. The best places don't have 100% success, but they generally can get a pretty good "read" on a student in a short time. From what you wrote, my thought is that your daughter does belong in a therapeutic environment, but not the one she is now in. I suspect her current school is not therapeutically intense, and relies more on guided group behavior and activities. I think that may be appropriate for some kids who somehow lost their way, but is not the right mix for someone with the mental/thought issues you report she has. Frankly, I'd worry that bringing her home without time in a more therapeutically intensive program would be a big mistake. I don't know that I'd even wait until the end of the school year to make a change assuming credits wouldn't be lost. I know this sounds potentially unaffordable, especially with the commitments to your other children, but there are at least three possible funding sources to help. Sometimes, "scholarships" are available, and given the current economy some schools (maybe not ones suitable for your daughter, but I don't know) have offered some tuition reductions. Second, I hope you recognize that the tuition and some related cost is a tax-deductable expense, so that offsets some of the outlay. Also, it is quite possible that your local school district could be required to pay for her placement. The point on school district paying is not a "given" as you say she is doing well academically, but if you think she could be doing much better without the psychological (including behavioral) issues, a case might be made. [Also, have the good grades been just where she now is, or were they good before Feb 2008 as well?] At best, making that case would take a couple of months, and the process might drag for much longer. If you think there could be a chance, look at "IEP" eligibility. I'm sure there is info in the spec.ed. section (and/or archives) on this site. [/QUOTE]
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