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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 460415" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>An ARNP is a nurse practictioner that works under the psychologist. In the rual community where we live, it is our only option. If you ask difficult child why she does something it is usually, "I don't know". But it is one of two things... she wants to "win" - she can't stand it if her younger sister can do anything as well as she can... and when it is towards me - it is because she wants to "win" the argument so that if any one is around she can show them she is in charge. She can be fine when there is nothing going on - like if her sister is away at camp. If she doesn't have to interact with us much - then there is no conflict. </p><p></p><p>husband took the rx to the drug store yesterday - but didn't get if picked up - so I guess we will start tonight. We were told to take it about 2 hours before bedtime, as it might make her drowsy. But, that might be a good thing. She has a hard time getting ready to sleep. Last night, she was up for 90 minutes after she went to bed. </p><p></p><p> Last night she was upset because she grasps that the medication she will be taking is to treat bipolar, which is what her biomom has, and she has a lot of anger towards biomom. We tried to explain that many of the things her mom does, is because she won't seek treatment for her symptoms. She has been given medication, but after a month or so - stops. We have not heard from biomom much in the last 6 months as she left the state we are in and is staying in Washington state. We have had two emails in about 4 months. </p><p></p><p>Last night, she told me that a girl at school threatened to punch her in the face. I guess this girl is behind her in choir, was trash talking about her to another girl, so difficult child turned her around and said "if you have something to say, say it to my face" that is when the girl threatened to hit her, so difficult child responds that "she was all talk and no show". I tried to explain to difficult child that you don't practically dare someone to hit you. Basically, difficult child was asking me for permission to hit her if it came to that. I told her I can't tell her it is OK to hit someone - that she is going to have to decide how to handle it and be responsible for the consequences of her actions. But that it is best NOT to let it get to that point. </p><p></p><p>But, I can honestly say, that when she is in one of her silly, giggly party moods, I have wanted to smack her myself! She is just so irritating! And the most irritating thing is - she doesn't have a clue that she is so irritating! She just doesn't notice when we are getting upset and she should stop what she is doing. Her little sister has the radar that lets her know that things are headed south and she had better stop, or quiet down. But difficult child doesn't. Even when you tell her, to "turn things down a notch", she just doesn't get it. She is like a volcanoe that can't be stopped.</p><p></p><p>I will try to post the name of the rx later today when I go pick it up. I hope it helps. But, I know it is only one tool and that we need to keep working on our relationship. But when you correct her - all hell breaks loose. Like the other day, she used "freaking" as a term towards me when I asked her to do something. We have told her we don't the word in our home, because it is just a stand in word for an inappropriate word. Her reply "Well, apparently we do use it, because I just did! Now leave me alone." And last night, when husband interrupted her from her rant, she started screaming "Shut up, you don't interrupt me, you are going to listen to me and hear what I have to say" But we do let her talk - alot - but it is never enough. She thinks if she talks "enough" that we will agree with her, and there are some times, it just doesn't matter how many times she "tells us" the answer is still no. She can't take no. "No" is what starts the battle. "No" is drawing the line in the sand. Once the line is drawn, she not only crosses the line - but will dance all over it. KSM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 460415, member: 12511"] An ARNP is a nurse practictioner that works under the psychologist. In the rual community where we live, it is our only option. If you ask difficult child why she does something it is usually, "I don't know". But it is one of two things... she wants to "win" - she can't stand it if her younger sister can do anything as well as she can... and when it is towards me - it is because she wants to "win" the argument so that if any one is around she can show them she is in charge. She can be fine when there is nothing going on - like if her sister is away at camp. If she doesn't have to interact with us much - then there is no conflict. husband took the rx to the drug store yesterday - but didn't get if picked up - so I guess we will start tonight. We were told to take it about 2 hours before bedtime, as it might make her drowsy. But, that might be a good thing. She has a hard time getting ready to sleep. Last night, she was up for 90 minutes after she went to bed. Last night she was upset because she grasps that the medication she will be taking is to treat bipolar, which is what her biomom has, and she has a lot of anger towards biomom. We tried to explain that many of the things her mom does, is because she won't seek treatment for her symptoms. She has been given medication, but after a month or so - stops. We have not heard from biomom much in the last 6 months as she left the state we are in and is staying in Washington state. We have had two emails in about 4 months. Last night, she told me that a girl at school threatened to punch her in the face. I guess this girl is behind her in choir, was trash talking about her to another girl, so difficult child turned her around and said "if you have something to say, say it to my face" that is when the girl threatened to hit her, so difficult child responds that "she was all talk and no show". I tried to explain to difficult child that you don't practically dare someone to hit you. Basically, difficult child was asking me for permission to hit her if it came to that. I told her I can't tell her it is OK to hit someone - that she is going to have to decide how to handle it and be responsible for the consequences of her actions. But that it is best NOT to let it get to that point. But, I can honestly say, that when she is in one of her silly, giggly party moods, I have wanted to smack her myself! She is just so irritating! And the most irritating thing is - she doesn't have a clue that she is so irritating! She just doesn't notice when we are getting upset and she should stop what she is doing. Her little sister has the radar that lets her know that things are headed south and she had better stop, or quiet down. But difficult child doesn't. Even when you tell her, to "turn things down a notch", she just doesn't get it. She is like a volcanoe that can't be stopped. I will try to post the name of the rx later today when I go pick it up. I hope it helps. But, I know it is only one tool and that we need to keep working on our relationship. But when you correct her - all hell breaks loose. Like the other day, she used "freaking" as a term towards me when I asked her to do something. We have told her we don't the word in our home, because it is just a stand in word for an inappropriate word. Her reply "Well, apparently we do use it, because I just did! Now leave me alone." And last night, when husband interrupted her from her rant, she started screaming "Shut up, you don't interrupt me, you are going to listen to me and hear what I have to say" But we do let her talk - alot - but it is never enough. She thinks if she talks "enough" that we will agree with her, and there are some times, it just doesn't matter how many times she "tells us" the answer is still no. She can't take no. "No" is what starts the battle. "No" is drawing the line in the sand. Once the line is drawn, she not only crosses the line - but will dance all over it. KSM [/QUOTE]
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