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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 730828" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Another thing occurred to me. Does your daughter have a preference for certain textures, sounds, volumes of sound, motions, odors, etc... Things she MUST have or MUST NOT have? Is she a demanding or picky eater? Has she always been?</p><p></p><p>The social isolation, not wanting anyone around, not wanting to go and do things with the whole family can be signs of something called Sensory Integration Disorder. This means that your brain doesn't process input from your senses in the typical way. You seek out the stimuli that is pleasurable and avoid what is not. The big problem with this disorder is that it can feel like the entire world is attacking you all at one time. For example, I don't go to malls often. I loathe them as a whole. The odors used in the stores literally make me gag and leave me with a migraine. Sometimes the smells from certain stores are so strong I can even taste them and they taste even worse than they smell! The lighting always feels like it is coming at me because it is just too bright. If I walk through a clothes department, so many of them are of textures that literally make me shudder and make my skin crawl. The music usually makes it impossible for me to talk to anyone with me. The only other sensory group is proprioception, which relates to how your body is positioned and how it is moving. Malls don't mess with that for me. What I described above? That is a GOOD day in a mall. A bad day isn't worth thinking about. I would rather gouge out my eyeballs and pour hot oil in the sockets than go in the mall when I am having a bad sensory day. </p><p></p><p>If you think there could be some elements of sensory integration disorder to your daughter's problems, the expert to seek out is an Occupational Therapist. At your daughter's age, with good grades, I doubt your school will have her see their's. Instead, you might as the neuropsychologist which occupational therapy practice he recommends. Otherwise, google for one experienced in sensory integration disorder. There ARE ways to treat it. GOOD ways. </p><p></p><p>The first way to treat it is to provide a sensory diet. This is a mix of activities that provide the range of sensory input that her brain needs. Usually these are things that the person is drawn to or enjoys very much. I always had a lot of craft and hands-on or messy things for my kids to play with. When the therapist handed me the list of the toys that were right for the types of sensory diet that my son needed, we had about 75% of them (mostly thanks to my mother's over indulgence). The things my son wanted to do were what he needed to do. It does make it rather interesting that way. </p><p></p><p>The other way to treat this is one that I was told was used only on children under 12. I think that is likely changing. If not, I don't think it can hurt to push or ask what it will harm to try on a child her age/ If it won't do anything, what is the loss? I was told that it would not hurt a child over that age, but it was a waste of time and energy. This therapy is called Brushing Therapy. It has been proven to change how the brain uses input from the senses. It uses zero medication, just a plain, dry, non-soaped surgical scrub brush or other similar brush. Don't try it until you are taught to do it by an Occupational Therapist though. If done incorrectly, it can cause very real problems. </p><p></p><p>If you want to learn more about this disorder, read The Out-of-Sync Child by Kranowitz. It explains the disorder really well. If you want a book full of seriously FUN activities to do with your family, read The Out-of-Sync Child Has Fun, also by Kranowitz. It was written to help parents provide activities to help meet a sensory diet. The activities are truly fun. My family went through several copies of the book because we wore it out. Somehow every kid in the neighborhood would show up when I brought that book out to do an activity. I would start with my kids and before I got everything set up, kids would be everywhere, joining in. The author includes tips to make each activity less expensive, which I certainly appreciated. Even the adults enjoyed the activities and participated. That book (all the copies) made a lot of fun memories for us. Plus it was therapeutic for the kids and I (I have sensory integration disorder also, though I didn't know it until the kids were diagnosed). I realize your older daughter mightnot like the Has Fun book, but even without Sensory Integration Disorder (SID), the rest of the family might have a great time with it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 730828, member: 1233"] Another thing occurred to me. Does your daughter have a preference for certain textures, sounds, volumes of sound, motions, odors, etc... Things she MUST have or MUST NOT have? Is she a demanding or picky eater? Has she always been? The social isolation, not wanting anyone around, not wanting to go and do things with the whole family can be signs of something called Sensory Integration Disorder. This means that your brain doesn't process input from your senses in the typical way. You seek out the stimuli that is pleasurable and avoid what is not. The big problem with this disorder is that it can feel like the entire world is attacking you all at one time. For example, I don't go to malls often. I loathe them as a whole. The odors used in the stores literally make me gag and leave me with a migraine. Sometimes the smells from certain stores are so strong I can even taste them and they taste even worse than they smell! The lighting always feels like it is coming at me because it is just too bright. If I walk through a clothes department, so many of them are of textures that literally make me shudder and make my skin crawl. The music usually makes it impossible for me to talk to anyone with me. The only other sensory group is proprioception, which relates to how your body is positioned and how it is moving. Malls don't mess with that for me. What I described above? That is a GOOD day in a mall. A bad day isn't worth thinking about. I would rather gouge out my eyeballs and pour hot oil in the sockets than go in the mall when I am having a bad sensory day. If you think there could be some elements of sensory integration disorder to your daughter's problems, the expert to seek out is an Occupational Therapist. At your daughter's age, with good grades, I doubt your school will have her see their's. Instead, you might as the neuropsychologist which occupational therapy practice he recommends. Otherwise, google for one experienced in sensory integration disorder. There ARE ways to treat it. GOOD ways. The first way to treat it is to provide a sensory diet. This is a mix of activities that provide the range of sensory input that her brain needs. Usually these are things that the person is drawn to or enjoys very much. I always had a lot of craft and hands-on or messy things for my kids to play with. When the therapist handed me the list of the toys that were right for the types of sensory diet that my son needed, we had about 75% of them (mostly thanks to my mother's over indulgence). The things my son wanted to do were what he needed to do. It does make it rather interesting that way. The other way to treat this is one that I was told was used only on children under 12. I think that is likely changing. If not, I don't think it can hurt to push or ask what it will harm to try on a child her age/ If it won't do anything, what is the loss? I was told that it would not hurt a child over that age, but it was a waste of time and energy. This therapy is called Brushing Therapy. It has been proven to change how the brain uses input from the senses. It uses zero medication, just a plain, dry, non-soaped surgical scrub brush or other similar brush. Don't try it until you are taught to do it by an Occupational Therapist though. If done incorrectly, it can cause very real problems. If you want to learn more about this disorder, read The Out-of-Sync Child by Kranowitz. It explains the disorder really well. If you want a book full of seriously FUN activities to do with your family, read The Out-of-Sync Child Has Fun, also by Kranowitz. It was written to help parents provide activities to help meet a sensory diet. The activities are truly fun. My family went through several copies of the book because we wore it out. Somehow every kid in the neighborhood would show up when I brought that book out to do an activity. I would start with my kids and before I got everything set up, kids would be everywhere, joining in. The author includes tips to make each activity less expensive, which I certainly appreciated. Even the adults enjoyed the activities and participated. That book (all the copies) made a lot of fun memories for us. Plus it was therapeutic for the kids and I (I have sensory integration disorder also, though I didn't know it until the kids were diagnosed). I realize your older daughter mightnot like the Has Fun book, but even without Sensory Integration Disorder (SID), the rest of the family might have a great time with it. [/QUOTE]
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