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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 626797" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Rosie, is your daughter living with you? If this behavior is harming you or your family then regardless of what is going on with her, you need to set boundaries around the behavior. If she is stealing from you then you must put a stop to that. If she is not paying for her car then it is a good idea for you to stop the payments. </p><p></p><p>Some traits that your daughter has could fall in to the entitlement category. If you have enabled her, always bailed her out, given her everything she desired then you may indeed be dealing with an entitled adult.</p><p></p><p>The only way to correct this behavior is for you to set some strict boundaries around the behavior that is abhorrent to you. And, clearly to stop giving her money. If she is disrespectful to you it is necessary to stop that behavior immediately, don't allow any of your daughters to be disrespectful to you.</p><p></p><p>All we have the power to do is to change our responses to the behavior. Figure out what it is you want, what you are willing to put up with and what you aren't and then make your feelings known. Make sure there are consequences to bad behavior. Do not reward bad behavior. Set strong boundaries around bad behavior. You have the power to change the situation with your responses. But you have to draw a line in the sand and not allow anyone to hold you hostage with their bad choices.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 626797, member: 13542"] Rosie, is your daughter living with you? If this behavior is harming you or your family then regardless of what is going on with her, you need to set boundaries around the behavior. If she is stealing from you then you must put a stop to that. If she is not paying for her car then it is a good idea for you to stop the payments. Some traits that your daughter has could fall in to the entitlement category. If you have enabled her, always bailed her out, given her everything she desired then you may indeed be dealing with an entitled adult. The only way to correct this behavior is for you to set some strict boundaries around the behavior that is abhorrent to you. And, clearly to stop giving her money. If she is disrespectful to you it is necessary to stop that behavior immediately, don't allow any of your daughters to be disrespectful to you. All we have the power to do is to change our responses to the behavior. Figure out what it is you want, what you are willing to put up with and what you aren't and then make your feelings known. Make sure there are consequences to bad behavior. Do not reward bad behavior. Set strong boundaries around bad behavior. You have the power to change the situation with your responses. But you have to draw a line in the sand and not allow anyone to hold you hostage with their bad choices. [/QUOTE]
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