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My 31 year old brother won't move out
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 665411" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>Your story is very concerning. I agree with the other poster who said ifyou have children, I would very very very seriously consider moving out of the home immediately. And if he is ever violent, I would<u> immediately call the police.</u></p><p></p><p>Also, if you don't have them at this time, I would get locks for your bedroom doors...for you and your mother.</p><p></p><p>I don't know for sure, but it might not be too complicated in terms of what to do next. He very likely needs to receive official notification that you are terminating the arrangement of allowing him to live in the home. You might need to give him at least thirty days notice. You need the advice of a realtor and/or an attorney.</p><p></p><p><strong>Other things to consider:</strong></p><p>Family therapy</p><p>Buying a gun safe and insisting that he place all his guns and ammo into the box and have your mother and/or a trusted person on the oustide (better) keep the key. This could be used as a bargaining tool for him to stay another month.</p><p>Help your mother get legal counseling/perhaps there is legal aid available</p><p>Send him an official/certifified letter regarding when he has to vacate the property/but give him sufficient notice (double check with an attorney) Make sure you have a copy of the letter in a safe place, as well as the receipt of the certified mailing.</p><p>Offer some/ a little help with reference to moving. For example, he can use the garage as a storage unit for six months. After that he will have to use an official storage unit. You can draw up a letter of agreement.</p><p>Help him (within reason) find a house to rent. You and your mother can offer to split the cost of moving and hire movers to move his stuff to the new place. In other words, make it relatively easy for him to move. Make it a little more comfortable for him to move out.</p><p>If you think there is any chance of it working at all, you can say that you thought he might actually want to move out before his 32 ??? (next birthday) as a cool way to celebrate. However, it doesn't sound like there is much reasoning with him.</p><p></p><p></p><p>But most importantly, be very aware of the safety for you, your family and your mother.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 665411, member: 4152"] Your story is very concerning. I agree with the other poster who said ifyou have children, I would very very very seriously consider moving out of the home immediately. And if he is ever violent, I would[U] immediately call the police.[/U] Also, if you don't have them at this time, I would get locks for your bedroom doors...for you and your mother. I don't know for sure, but it might not be too complicated in terms of what to do next. He very likely needs to receive official notification that you are terminating the arrangement of allowing him to live in the home. You might need to give him at least thirty days notice. You need the advice of a realtor and/or an attorney. [B]Other things to consider:[/B] Family therapy Buying a gun safe and insisting that he place all his guns and ammo into the box and have your mother and/or a trusted person on the oustide (better) keep the key. This could be used as a bargaining tool for him to stay another month. Help your mother get legal counseling/perhaps there is legal aid available Send him an official/certifified letter regarding when he has to vacate the property/but give him sufficient notice (double check with an attorney) Make sure you have a copy of the letter in a safe place, as well as the receipt of the certified mailing. Offer some/ a little help with reference to moving. For example, he can use the garage as a storage unit for six months. After that he will have to use an official storage unit. You can draw up a letter of agreement. Help him (within reason) find a house to rent. You and your mother can offer to split the cost of moving and hire movers to move his stuff to the new place. In other words, make it relatively easy for him to move. Make it a little more comfortable for him to move out. If you think there is any chance of it working at all, you can say that you thought he might actually want to move out before his 32 ??? (next birthday) as a cool way to celebrate. However, it doesn't sound like there is much reasoning with him. But most importantly, be very aware of the safety for you, your family and your mother. [/QUOTE]
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