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<blockquote data-quote="apesfordana" data-source="post: 473834" data-attributes="member: 13077"><p>In response to some more info on 'the boy'</p><p>- He is my husband & my biological son. I was saying 'the boy' because most forums seem to avoid the use of names & I'm not savvy with all of the abbreviations. This is no indication of lack of intimacy with him. His is very much a cuddler, a happy, active, incredibly social little guy. </p><p>- Infancy was as normal as I think could be expected. No colic or incidents. He got the flu at 5 months - before he could get any time of flu vaccine... but there were no dangerous fevers or hospital runs.</p><p>- We are very lucky with our son. I've read a lot of threads in this forum and I know things could be much worse. But there are things I worry about - the stutter, focusing issues, heavy food issues... but you hit it on the head.. my husband is heavy into 'there is nothing wrong with my son'. No speech pathologist 'that'll come free and can be addressed in kindergarten'. Sticking his hand is his mouth to vomit is 'acting out for attention' and 'even if there is something wrong, he has to know the way he is expressing himself if wrong and will not be tolerated', the attention issues are 'he's 4!'... in his exact words, 'I am not about to tell my son that something is wrong with him'... </p><p></p><p>I try to have a united front with my husband, and perhaps, as a mom, I worry to much... but I don't like the 'wait and see' approach. Especially because something above that was mentioned - stutters, vomiting, being a loner - I've already overheard kids being passively mean to my son. Again, to my husband 'kids will find something no matter what, they are mean no matter what' - my husband is a subsitute teacher by the way. I agree to an extent - I was heavily bullied and so was my husband. </p><p></p><p>For other questions - my son doesn't like to draw or color. He isn't a fan of loud noise - but he deals fine. No freak outs or heavy fears. he is incredibly social on the playground - looking for friends the moment we arrive. But I usually find him alone when I pick him up from school. I pick up that he tends to play with younger kids... Sleep is fine, affection is wonderful - but not overbearing. No clothing issues or no stomach issues.</p><p></p><p>The vomiting is only if he shoves his hand in his mouth, fingers down his throat, only until he throws up. When asked by a teacher why - his only answer is that he wants to go home. In a way, I do feel like he's acting out. Only in that he has found a way to not get food he doesn't want. He doesn't want anything he classifies as a veggie - doesn't taste it.. if it is on his plate, mixed in with the food.. he'll have none of it. He doesn't oppose things that are good for him because he'll drink V8.. happily. To me, it is a texture thing and YES I admit that I allow him to not like foods. If they cause him anxiety of if he truly doesn't like the taste.. I let him skip it because I don't want the fight & I'd rather work with him to find other ways to eat healthy. </p><p></p><p>I feel like I could go on forever. Everything above, I've brought up with the pediatrician... she doesn't really seem to think anything is a problem. He hasn't been tested for anything, but I feel like I'd have to go behind my husband to do so. He insists that once our son hits kindergarden in the fall - all of these worries will be addressed... that is what the public school system does. I don't think we can wait...</p><p></p><p>sorry - correction - we have not talked about the throwing up with the pediatrician. Again, my husband says no. That is why I'm here... I need advice. I don't want to break my little boy and I don't want to create more of a gap with my husband.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="apesfordana, post: 473834, member: 13077"] In response to some more info on 'the boy' - He is my husband & my biological son. I was saying 'the boy' because most forums seem to avoid the use of names & I'm not savvy with all of the abbreviations. This is no indication of lack of intimacy with him. His is very much a cuddler, a happy, active, incredibly social little guy. - Infancy was as normal as I think could be expected. No colic or incidents. He got the flu at 5 months - before he could get any time of flu vaccine... but there were no dangerous fevers or hospital runs. - We are very lucky with our son. I've read a lot of threads in this forum and I know things could be much worse. But there are things I worry about - the stutter, focusing issues, heavy food issues... but you hit it on the head.. my husband is heavy into 'there is nothing wrong with my son'. No speech pathologist 'that'll come free and can be addressed in kindergarten'. Sticking his hand is his mouth to vomit is 'acting out for attention' and 'even if there is something wrong, he has to know the way he is expressing himself if wrong and will not be tolerated', the attention issues are 'he's 4!'... in his exact words, 'I am not about to tell my son that something is wrong with him'... I try to have a united front with my husband, and perhaps, as a mom, I worry to much... but I don't like the 'wait and see' approach. Especially because something above that was mentioned - stutters, vomiting, being a loner - I've already overheard kids being passively mean to my son. Again, to my husband 'kids will find something no matter what, they are mean no matter what' - my husband is a subsitute teacher by the way. I agree to an extent - I was heavily bullied and so was my husband. For other questions - my son doesn't like to draw or color. He isn't a fan of loud noise - but he deals fine. No freak outs or heavy fears. he is incredibly social on the playground - looking for friends the moment we arrive. But I usually find him alone when I pick him up from school. I pick up that he tends to play with younger kids... Sleep is fine, affection is wonderful - but not overbearing. No clothing issues or no stomach issues. The vomiting is only if he shoves his hand in his mouth, fingers down his throat, only until he throws up. When asked by a teacher why - his only answer is that he wants to go home. In a way, I do feel like he's acting out. Only in that he has found a way to not get food he doesn't want. He doesn't want anything he classifies as a veggie - doesn't taste it.. if it is on his plate, mixed in with the food.. he'll have none of it. He doesn't oppose things that are good for him because he'll drink V8.. happily. To me, it is a texture thing and YES I admit that I allow him to not like foods. If they cause him anxiety of if he truly doesn't like the taste.. I let him skip it because I don't want the fight & I'd rather work with him to find other ways to eat healthy. I feel like I could go on forever. Everything above, I've brought up with the pediatrician... she doesn't really seem to think anything is a problem. He hasn't been tested for anything, but I feel like I'd have to go behind my husband to do so. He insists that once our son hits kindergarden in the fall - all of these worries will be addressed... that is what the public school system does. I don't think we can wait... sorry - correction - we have not talked about the throwing up with the pediatrician. Again, my husband says no. That is why I'm here... I need advice. I don't want to break my little boy and I don't want to create more of a gap with my husband. [/QUOTE]
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