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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 602414" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there and welcome to the board <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> although very sorry you have to be here.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion you should probably have a neuropsychologist test him because a counselor isn't really qualified to do so. It sounds like more than ADHD to me and my motto is "better to be safe than sorry." Without the right label, you won't get his particular type of help in school. Many disorders make kids seem very hyperactive. Two other ones are childhood mood disorders and autistic spectrum disorder, high functioning. If he has either of them, the medications he was given would make him worse, not better. My son took both and Prozac made him literally NUTS a nd Adderrall made him mean and aggressive. My son's very first diagnosis was ADHD/ODD, but it wasn't. My son has Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified, a form of atypical autism and he's doing really well with interventions and is medication free. </p><p></p><p>Can you give us a little more background info so we can maybe give you a bit more help and support? Tell us about his infancy and toddlerhood. Any delays? Anything unusual? Did he have any chaos and perhaps many caregivers in his early years? Was there any abuse or violence going on around him? Anything mentally or neurologically in his father's family tree? Even if he doesn't know his father, he carries 50% of his DNA. So, in a sense, he is still there. Any delays? Strange quirks (throat noises, constant tapping, rocking, repeating)? Any obsessions? How does he get along with his same age peers? Is he APPROPRIATELY social or does he want to have friends but doesn't know how? There is help for this (social skills classes). Or does he hang out alone and not care? Does he display violence toward people and animals? Does he pee or poop in unusual places? Any interest in fire?</p><p></p><p>Whew. I know that's a lot. The more you give us, the better we can attempt to help, remembering we are laypeople. Our differently wired children are difficult to parent and don't usually respond to typical parenting methods. We each have to find our own methods that work. Time-outs, spankings, taking away toys or privileges often ramp our kids up and rarely teach them not to repeat the behavior. For my particular son, redirection and positivity in parenting did the best job, but by no means stopped his behaviors. He had to get interventions for his disorder to improve, and improve he did!!!!</p><p></p><p>Glad to "meet" you and your children. You may want to test the younger one too because "things" (whatever they are) tend to run in families and the earlier you get help, the better the prognosis.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 602414, member: 1550"] Hi there and welcome to the board :) although very sorry you have to be here. in my opinion you should probably have a neuropsychologist test him because a counselor isn't really qualified to do so. It sounds like more than ADHD to me and my motto is "better to be safe than sorry." Without the right label, you won't get his particular type of help in school. Many disorders make kids seem very hyperactive. Two other ones are childhood mood disorders and autistic spectrum disorder, high functioning. If he has either of them, the medications he was given would make him worse, not better. My son took both and Prozac made him literally NUTS a nd Adderrall made him mean and aggressive. My son's very first diagnosis was ADHD/ODD, but it wasn't. My son has Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified, a form of atypical autism and he's doing really well with interventions and is medication free. Can you give us a little more background info so we can maybe give you a bit more help and support? Tell us about his infancy and toddlerhood. Any delays? Anything unusual? Did he have any chaos and perhaps many caregivers in his early years? Was there any abuse or violence going on around him? Anything mentally or neurologically in his father's family tree? Even if he doesn't know his father, he carries 50% of his DNA. So, in a sense, he is still there. Any delays? Strange quirks (throat noises, constant tapping, rocking, repeating)? Any obsessions? How does he get along with his same age peers? Is he APPROPRIATELY social or does he want to have friends but doesn't know how? There is help for this (social skills classes). Or does he hang out alone and not care? Does he display violence toward people and animals? Does he pee or poop in unusual places? Any interest in fire? Whew. I know that's a lot. The more you give us, the better we can attempt to help, remembering we are laypeople. Our differently wired children are difficult to parent and don't usually respond to typical parenting methods. We each have to find our own methods that work. Time-outs, spankings, taking away toys or privileges often ramp our kids up and rarely teach them not to repeat the behavior. For my particular son, redirection and positivity in parenting did the best job, but by no means stopped his behaviors. He had to get interventions for his disorder to improve, and improve he did!!!! Glad to "meet" you and your children. You may want to test the younger one too because "things" (whatever they are) tend to run in families and the earlier you get help, the better the prognosis. [/QUOTE]
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