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My 84-yr-old cousin's dementia is getting worse
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 548817" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I think alzheimers and dementia have an opposite effect on people. Those who are really nice and pleasant people when they were normal end up demanding and rude. On the other hand, my mom was a horrible monster and she ended up being the nicest and calmest person on the planet. In fact the first symptom we had that something was going on with her was when she looked at me one day and told me "You know honey, you really were such a pleasure for me to have in my life. I am so lucky to have had you." Now this woman had never said anything like that to me in my life. I turned to look at her and smelled her breath to see if she had been hitting the sauce. This happened at the Thanksgiving before I got the call the following April. By that summer she didnt know who I was or that she had even had a baby ever. I would show her my baby pictures and she was adamant that she had never given birth. I would wonder if I didnt look so much like her...lol. </p><p></p><p>She had some very strange behaviors for sure but she was so much more laid back with dementia than when she had her mind about her. I could have never taken care of her if she had become physically disabled but kept her mind alert. She wouldnt have let me. We would have fought over everything constantly. As it was, I was so desperately hurt by the things she had done to me and the more I learned as I unpacked her belongings I just got more and more upset because she kept copies of things she had done that I didnt know about. It took me months before I could actually do the caregiving myself. Tony and the boys stepped up to the plate and did most of it for quite awhile. Oh I cooked her meals and washed her clothes but they watched her, fed her and made sure she was bathed and changed. I simply couldnt look at her because she had done some very awful things to me and I had to see the evidence up close and personal as soon as I took her in. I still havent gone through everything because I am afraid of what else I am going to find.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 548817, member: 1514"] I think alzheimers and dementia have an opposite effect on people. Those who are really nice and pleasant people when they were normal end up demanding and rude. On the other hand, my mom was a horrible monster and she ended up being the nicest and calmest person on the planet. In fact the first symptom we had that something was going on with her was when she looked at me one day and told me "You know honey, you really were such a pleasure for me to have in my life. I am so lucky to have had you." Now this woman had never said anything like that to me in my life. I turned to look at her and smelled her breath to see if she had been hitting the sauce. This happened at the Thanksgiving before I got the call the following April. By that summer she didnt know who I was or that she had even had a baby ever. I would show her my baby pictures and she was adamant that she had never given birth. I would wonder if I didnt look so much like her...lol. She had some very strange behaviors for sure but she was so much more laid back with dementia than when she had her mind about her. I could have never taken care of her if she had become physically disabled but kept her mind alert. She wouldnt have let me. We would have fought over everything constantly. As it was, I was so desperately hurt by the things she had done to me and the more I learned as I unpacked her belongings I just got more and more upset because she kept copies of things she had done that I didnt know about. It took me months before I could actually do the caregiving myself. Tony and the boys stepped up to the plate and did most of it for quite awhile. Oh I cooked her meals and washed her clothes but they watched her, fed her and made sure she was bathed and changed. I simply couldnt look at her because she had done some very awful things to me and I had to see the evidence up close and personal as soon as I took her in. I still havent gone through everything because I am afraid of what else I am going to find. [/QUOTE]
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