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My 9 y/o boy has adhd/odd, I dont know how to help him......
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<blockquote data-quote="penmaker" data-source="post: 488818" data-attributes="member: 13393"><p>Ok this is the situation,</p><p></p><p>my 9 y/o came to live with us when he was 5 and we adopted him when he was 6, he has a bio sister we adopted also, they both came to live with us at the same time. Prior to there arrival we had already adopted my 6 year old, we had him since he was 1 year old.</p><p></p><p>They came into the foster system for neglect and drug manufacturing by the bio parents, he tries to remember things that happened but he was too young, his sister has to correct him all the time. they were in foster care for 2 years and in that time they were in a shelter for a short time.</p><p></p><p>Here are some of the issues we are having:</p><p></p><p>- Blames everyone else for his mistakes</p><p>- outbursts of anger</p><p>- spiteful</p><p>- absolutely refuses to comply to rules and requests</p><p>- very whiny and shows fake crying ( he turns it on and off like a light switch)</p><p>- when fighting with younger brother , seeks revenge and very manipulative.</p><p></p><p>Last night we had a police officer talk to him and he bowed up to him.</p><p></p><p>He has had 2 full psychological evaluations done, the both came back adhd/odd</p><p></p><p>He was on guanfacine and straterra and they changed it to intuniv er and depakote er. The problem is finding a good psychiatrist in this area that will make an office visit last more than 10 minutes! Plus finding a counselor that has any brains in there head has been like looking for a needle in a haystack.</p><p></p><p>We are currently seeing a occupational therapist, we go for our 3rd visit tommorrow, she is telling us his "core" from the brain stem down is way under developed for his age, but his brain is closer to being on target. She is shedding some light to us, but I dont understand all that.</p><p></p><p><strong><em>Margaurite- you said the following: Example - respecting adults. I found difficult child 3 did not do this because adults were not respecting him (from his perspective). So I changed how I dealt with him. Observe yourself - how do you deal with this boy? We do tend to give our kids orders, even if we couch them with "please" (which we often do not do). But for some kids, they will dish back to others, the way those others have treated them. If your son is doing this, then I would strongly urge further evaluation because it indicates a deficit (maybe only mild but it doesn't take much) in social understanding. </em></strong></p><p><strong><em></em></strong></p><p>This is exactly how he is. we have also been told to get him tested for Aspergers, which he has many of those signs, but the test costs around 3000.00 and insurance wont cover it.</p><p></p><p>So thats where we are currently.</p><p></p><p>Thank you so much for everyones input!!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="penmaker, post: 488818, member: 13393"] Ok this is the situation, my 9 y/o came to live with us when he was 5 and we adopted him when he was 6, he has a bio sister we adopted also, they both came to live with us at the same time. Prior to there arrival we had already adopted my 6 year old, we had him since he was 1 year old. They came into the foster system for neglect and drug manufacturing by the bio parents, he tries to remember things that happened but he was too young, his sister has to correct him all the time. they were in foster care for 2 years and in that time they were in a shelter for a short time. Here are some of the issues we are having: - Blames everyone else for his mistakes - outbursts of anger - spiteful - absolutely refuses to comply to rules and requests - very whiny and shows fake crying ( he turns it on and off like a light switch) - when fighting with younger brother , seeks revenge and very manipulative. Last night we had a police officer talk to him and he bowed up to him. He has had 2 full psychological evaluations done, the both came back adhd/odd He was on guanfacine and straterra and they changed it to intuniv er and depakote er. The problem is finding a good psychiatrist in this area that will make an office visit last more than 10 minutes! Plus finding a counselor that has any brains in there head has been like looking for a needle in a haystack. We are currently seeing a occupational therapist, we go for our 3rd visit tommorrow, she is telling us his "core" from the brain stem down is way under developed for his age, but his brain is closer to being on target. She is shedding some light to us, but I dont understand all that. [B][I]Margaurite- you said the following: Example - respecting adults. I found difficult child 3 did not do this because adults were not respecting him (from his perspective). So I changed how I dealt with him. Observe yourself - how do you deal with this boy? We do tend to give our kids orders, even if we couch them with "please" (which we often do not do). But for some kids, they will dish back to others, the way those others have treated them. If your son is doing this, then I would strongly urge further evaluation because it indicates a deficit (maybe only mild but it doesn't take much) in social understanding. [/I][/B] This is exactly how he is. we have also been told to get him tested for Aspergers, which he has many of those signs, but the test costs around 3000.00 and insurance wont cover it. So thats where we are currently. Thank you so much for everyones input!!!!! [/QUOTE]
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