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My Adult daughter has issues with me but won't tell me why?
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 559104" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I'm going to jump right in here and say that if your screen name here is close to your real name, you probably want to change it. The CD board works best when you feel comfortable speaking your mind, and there have been times in the past when parents have been badly burned when their kids - young <em>and </em>adult - found what they were posting here and started HUGE fights involving family and friends. </p><p></p><p>It's hard to know why your daughter is behaving this way without knowing a lot of background on you and her and your family dynamics. She <em>is</em> 31 years old, and capable of making her own decisions - even the bad ones. There are two things I would do immediately regarding this situation. First, I would not financially support her in any way. I would back off on any extravagances. How old is the grandchild? If he or she is old enough to go to the zoo or park, I'd make my visits about that rather than spend my time letting him watch her give me the cold shoulder. If she won't do that, I'd get a lawyer and go for grandparental rights visitation, but that is a ways from where you are. You have to exhaust other avenues first.</p><p></p><p>The second thing I would do is find a good therapist to help you to not feel so badly about this. It's a wicked way to treat you, but this is about the type of person that <em>she</em> is, not the type of person that <em>you</em> are. My daughter is about your daughter's age, so we are probably at a similar age, as well. I know it was important for me to find things that made me get on with my own life and stop allowing my daughter to walk all over me.</p><p></p><p>Good luck to you, and <em>change your screen name!</em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 559104, member: 99"] I'm going to jump right in here and say that if your screen name here is close to your real name, you probably want to change it. The CD board works best when you feel comfortable speaking your mind, and there have been times in the past when parents have been badly burned when their kids - young [I]and [/I]adult - found what they were posting here and started HUGE fights involving family and friends. It's hard to know why your daughter is behaving this way without knowing a lot of background on you and her and your family dynamics. She [I]is[/I] 31 years old, and capable of making her own decisions - even the bad ones. There are two things I would do immediately regarding this situation. First, I would not financially support her in any way. I would back off on any extravagances. How old is the grandchild? If he or she is old enough to go to the zoo or park, I'd make my visits about that rather than spend my time letting him watch her give me the cold shoulder. If she won't do that, I'd get a lawyer and go for grandparental rights visitation, but that is a ways from where you are. You have to exhaust other avenues first. The second thing I would do is find a good therapist to help you to not feel so badly about this. It's a wicked way to treat you, but this is about the type of person that [I]she[/I] is, not the type of person that [I]you[/I] are. My daughter is about your daughter's age, so we are probably at a similar age, as well. I know it was important for me to find things that made me get on with my own life and stop allowing my daughter to walk all over me. Good luck to you, and [I]change your screen name![/I] [/QUOTE]
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