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<blockquote data-quote="compassion" data-source="post: 493382" data-attributes="member: 6393"><p>We have been dealing with this all week. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> She has actually not been successful but it has been so stressful dealing with the bank for hours each day. She has been targeting online accounts , attempted three times since Dec. 28. She also came over here last night,which was scary but we locked all doors. We are setting stellar boundaries and protecting ourselves but it is exhausting. Today, we have decided to give her 5 dollars for cigs when she takes her afternoon medications and giver her coupons for bowling and one ten dollar food card. Yes, she smokes pot . We give her no cash hence the effort to steal. All week I have tried to offer positive ways to get money(I give her money and a fast food meal if she goes to AA/Na meetings and offer to buy her movies ticket (no cash) and take her to dogpark and to engage in positive activities and she has refused but has been relentless about attempting to get HER way. I appreciate support vs. judgment or criticism. I am sometimes hesitant to share honestly on this forum because while I respect that everyone has a different approach, I have chosen to take the stance that she is ill, not bad and it has been a whole hearted effort to keep her out of the criminal justice system which I have for 3.5 years. Currently she is refusing help offered her. (AA/NA) She went to outpatient SA treatment for about 3 individual and 3 group sessions and about 6 random drug tests in Oct. and Nov. It seemed like a waste of time/money as she is adamant that she is not giving up pot. She was Baker acted Nov. 19 for 3 days. I found a dual diagnosis inpatient program but she refuses to sign. She is medication compliant. This is painful. It is not easy. I never give up hope. What I try and reinforce is her going to community college but am hestiant to put on the money right now: did not pay for the classes because of her stability/sobriety level. I do think strucuture helps. I would also like to see her doing one hour of volunteer work a week, involved in Voc. Rehab. and give her op to go to daily meetings and peer group though DBSA with other young adults weekly. I plan to connect hwr with a behavior analyst weekly. She sees p-doctor monthly. P-doctor is closing her clinic and we will be seeing another p-doctor starting in probably March. She has been on the same medications since August,she has been on full strength of Abilify since summer 2010.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="compassion, post: 493382, member: 6393"] We have been dealing with this all week. :( She has actually not been successful but it has been so stressful dealing with the bank for hours each day. She has been targeting online accounts , attempted three times since Dec. 28. She also came over here last night,which was scary but we locked all doors. We are setting stellar boundaries and protecting ourselves but it is exhausting. Today, we have decided to give her 5 dollars for cigs when she takes her afternoon medications and giver her coupons for bowling and one ten dollar food card. Yes, she smokes pot . We give her no cash hence the effort to steal. All week I have tried to offer positive ways to get money(I give her money and a fast food meal if she goes to AA/Na meetings and offer to buy her movies ticket (no cash) and take her to dogpark and to engage in positive activities and she has refused but has been relentless about attempting to get HER way. I appreciate support vs. judgment or criticism. I am sometimes hesitant to share honestly on this forum because while I respect that everyone has a different approach, I have chosen to take the stance that she is ill, not bad and it has been a whole hearted effort to keep her out of the criminal justice system which I have for 3.5 years. Currently she is refusing help offered her. (AA/NA) She went to outpatient SA treatment for about 3 individual and 3 group sessions and about 6 random drug tests in Oct. and Nov. It seemed like a waste of time/money as she is adamant that she is not giving up pot. She was Baker acted Nov. 19 for 3 days. I found a dual diagnosis inpatient program but she refuses to sign. She is medication compliant. This is painful. It is not easy. I never give up hope. What I try and reinforce is her going to community college but am hestiant to put on the money right now: did not pay for the classes because of her stability/sobriety level. I do think strucuture helps. I would also like to see her doing one hour of volunteer work a week, involved in Voc. Rehab. and give her op to go to daily meetings and peer group though DBSA with other young adults weekly. I plan to connect hwr with a behavior analyst weekly. She sees p-doctor monthly. P-doctor is closing her clinic and we will be seeing another p-doctor starting in probably March. She has been on the same medications since August,she has been on full strength of Abilify since summer 2010. [/QUOTE]
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