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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 394009" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>I was online with my sis tonight and asked for her mom to use the messenger program to finalize details. It was illuminating to talk to her, she literally just started blurting out stuff that I'd never in a million years have asked my sister or her mother or anyone. I was pretty shocked. </p><p></p><p>1. She still seems to blame her oldest daughter for the younger two going into foster care. This all for coming forward at abuse going on from my father when nobody was around. ARGH! That poor young woman. She's I think 19-20 now and how sad to have no mother in her life or her sisters, all for being brave enough to reach out and tell. </p><p></p><p>2. Child protection has indeed put into affect an order that my father can have zero contact with my sister. This is a big deal. Thank goodness!</p><p></p><p>3. Mother had my father abusing her, left him for another man who abused her, he was arrested. Then she met another guy this year, he abused her. She is now back in with the man after my father that abused her. She has court Friday against the third guy. She told me my sister was around for the abuse so "has had a tough year". Understatement?</p><p></p><p>4. My sister is a difficult child with her mom but does well elsewhere. Do ya think? </p><p></p><p>5. Child protection had closed the file. Both girls (my sister and her half sister who is 16 now) got into fights at school one day, 2 days after child protection had closed a file that was ongoing for more than a year. The worker showed back up and is still involved. (This is good, that they are involved)</p><p></p><p>6. There is concern that although the 16 year old can't be yanked out any longer due to age, that my sister may be at some point, especially if the current Prince Charming abuses her again. I'll be contacting that worker once again to let her know my sister and I are building a good relationship and that I stand firm she is welcome here if something happens and she is removed. </p><p></p><p>7. My sister told me her older sister, the 19 year old, spoiled her (not in "stuff", just with time, attention etc) and she hasnt' had that now for 2 years, her words "My having a big sister expired 2 years ago" And she put a sad face icon. Then said "Lucky for me I have a new one that won't expire for a while" and she put a happy face. I told her I'm sorry she must miss her other big sister. I assured her that there is no "expiration" with me, since I"m a adult etc. That I'm here for her anytime and she can always count on me. (Which she darn tootin can!)</p><p></p><p>8. Her mom claims to own a house which isn't in the town they are in now with the b/f. And she's been homeless and couch hopping since beginning of summer. Odd much?</p><p></p><p>Gosh, I wanna hug her and keep her. I'll settle for loving her tons and building a strong bond over time at her pace. *sigh* She reminds me of me as a kid</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 394009, member: 4264"] I was online with my sis tonight and asked for her mom to use the messenger program to finalize details. It was illuminating to talk to her, she literally just started blurting out stuff that I'd never in a million years have asked my sister or her mother or anyone. I was pretty shocked. 1. She still seems to blame her oldest daughter for the younger two going into foster care. This all for coming forward at abuse going on from my father when nobody was around. ARGH! That poor young woman. She's I think 19-20 now and how sad to have no mother in her life or her sisters, all for being brave enough to reach out and tell. 2. Child protection has indeed put into affect an order that my father can have zero contact with my sister. This is a big deal. Thank goodness! 3. Mother had my father abusing her, left him for another man who abused her, he was arrested. Then she met another guy this year, he abused her. She is now back in with the man after my father that abused her. She has court Friday against the third guy. She told me my sister was around for the abuse so "has had a tough year". Understatement? 4. My sister is a difficult child with her mom but does well elsewhere. Do ya think? 5. Child protection had closed the file. Both girls (my sister and her half sister who is 16 now) got into fights at school one day, 2 days after child protection had closed a file that was ongoing for more than a year. The worker showed back up and is still involved. (This is good, that they are involved) 6. There is concern that although the 16 year old can't be yanked out any longer due to age, that my sister may be at some point, especially if the current Prince Charming abuses her again. I'll be contacting that worker once again to let her know my sister and I are building a good relationship and that I stand firm she is welcome here if something happens and she is removed. 7. My sister told me her older sister, the 19 year old, spoiled her (not in "stuff", just with time, attention etc) and she hasnt' had that now for 2 years, her words "My having a big sister expired 2 years ago" And she put a sad face icon. Then said "Lucky for me I have a new one that won't expire for a while" and she put a happy face. I told her I'm sorry she must miss her other big sister. I assured her that there is no "expiration" with me, since I"m a adult etc. That I'm here for her anytime and she can always count on me. (Which she darn tootin can!) 8. Her mom claims to own a house which isn't in the town they are in now with the b/f. And she's been homeless and couch hopping since beginning of summer. Odd much? Gosh, I wanna hug her and keep her. I'll settle for loving her tons and building a strong bond over time at her pace. *sigh* She reminds me of me as a kid [/QUOTE]
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