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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 113735" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Hang in there. I have something important you can tell her - if she IS lesbian, she would probably know it by now. What is far more likely is that as her hormones are kicking in, she is getting pushed here and there with her feelings. It is not unusual to be confused at this age, with regard to sexual orientation. I remember having a big crush on a (female) gym teacher. I haven't a clue why. At this age it's a lot more than just sexual attraction, it's also deep friendship, it's admiration, it can be daring, it can be confusion. It all jumbles in together and it's very hard to know where the borders are. In kt's case, the prospect of heterosexuality could be looming large and scary. The thought of being a lesbian could be making her feel safer.</p><p></p><p>My gym teacher never knew, and I certainly never acted on anything. I grew out of it and have never been attracted to any other female. It did last for a couple of months, from what I recall.</p><p></p><p>I've since heard of similar things occasionally, from those who eventually grew up to be straight. I've also talked to friends who are homosexual (male and female) and in just about every case, when they look back on it they were never really in any doubt. Sometimes they tried to deny it to themselves, in a couple of cases getting married and having a couple of kids, but eventually had to accept the way they were.</p><p></p><p>Just tell her to not rush anything, she's far too young for a serious one-on-one relationship with someone just yet - male, or female.</p><p></p><p>And for the girl she kissed - same story. Trying to turn it into a love match could cause her a lot of confusion as well. And if the other girl is already sure she's a lesbian - forming a relationship with someone who is still too unsure of herself would be cruel.</p><p></p><p>I hope that helps.</p><p></p><p>It's not easy, is it?</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 113735, member: 1991"] Hang in there. I have something important you can tell her - if she IS lesbian, she would probably know it by now. What is far more likely is that as her hormones are kicking in, she is getting pushed here and there with her feelings. It is not unusual to be confused at this age, with regard to sexual orientation. I remember having a big crush on a (female) gym teacher. I haven't a clue why. At this age it's a lot more than just sexual attraction, it's also deep friendship, it's admiration, it can be daring, it can be confusion. It all jumbles in together and it's very hard to know where the borders are. In kt's case, the prospect of heterosexuality could be looming large and scary. The thought of being a lesbian could be making her feel safer. My gym teacher never knew, and I certainly never acted on anything. I grew out of it and have never been attracted to any other female. It did last for a couple of months, from what I recall. I've since heard of similar things occasionally, from those who eventually grew up to be straight. I've also talked to friends who are homosexual (male and female) and in just about every case, when they look back on it they were never really in any doubt. Sometimes they tried to deny it to themselves, in a couple of cases getting married and having a couple of kids, but eventually had to accept the way they were. Just tell her to not rush anything, she's far too young for a serious one-on-one relationship with someone just yet - male, or female. And for the girl she kissed - same story. Trying to turn it into a love match could cause her a lot of confusion as well. And if the other girl is already sure she's a lesbian - forming a relationship with someone who is still too unsure of herself would be cruel. I hope that helps. It's not easy, is it? Marg [/QUOTE]
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