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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 327597" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>Suz, you're absolutely right about the tactics I must use <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p>TL, no he did not have any Occupational Therapist (OT) or such after surgery. This is not a new symptom for him -- he was like this before surgery. He is coping better than he did back in the old days... and maybe I'm just better at recognizing it for what it is now, after all we've been through. (And there's no convenient mass transit from where we live to there. We looked into it, and the transit website mapped out a 4 hour commute each way for him <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/surprise.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":surprise:" title="surprise :surprise:" data-shortname=":surprise:" /> )</p><p> </p><p>Susie & Loth, I've asked him about audio books but he's not very enthusiastic... maybe I should just get one for him anyway. He's happy listening to sports radio, and that's about it. Something about his attention span...<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p> </p><p>Busywend, yup it's just gonna take time.</p><p> </p><p>It's just so strange to watch the transformation in him... reverts back to the same cognitive habits and behaviors. He ruminates. He does not let things go. And he seeks out the same things for stress relief (though maybe not as overtly and obsessively as he did before medications) or at least he's suddenly talking about it more. Before medications, he would get like this AND become horribly irritable and explosive, especially if he thought he was being kept from his stress relief of choice (too much information). It's literally like he falls into this scratch in his mental record that just keeps skipping and playing over and over. Does that qualify as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)? LOL</p><p> </p><p>And I feel my own anxiety start up when he starts complaining (that's the old codependent in me), but I'm working hard to detach (with love) and try to help him through this without taking on HIS anxiety as if that would help it go away. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" /></p><p> </p><p>He called this morning to talk to the kids before they left for school <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I know this makes him feel better and more connected to us all. We're going to be in L.A. Monday for a GI appointment for difficult child 1, so I'm planning to take the kids by his office to meet him for lunch... maybe we'll hang out at a museum and go to dinner too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 327597, member: 3444"] Suz, you're absolutely right about the tactics I must use :) TL, no he did not have any Occupational Therapist (OT) or such after surgery. This is not a new symptom for him -- he was like this before surgery. He is coping better than he did back in the old days... and maybe I'm just better at recognizing it for what it is now, after all we've been through. (And there's no convenient mass transit from where we live to there. We looked into it, and the transit website mapped out a 4 hour commute each way for him :surprised1: ) Susie & Loth, I've asked him about audio books but he's not very enthusiastic... maybe I should just get one for him anyway. He's happy listening to sports radio, and that's about it. Something about his attention span...:raspberry-tounge: Busywend, yup it's just gonna take time. It's just so strange to watch the transformation in him... reverts back to the same cognitive habits and behaviors. He ruminates. He does not let things go. And he seeks out the same things for stress relief (though maybe not as overtly and obsessively as he did before medications) or at least he's suddenly talking about it more. Before medications, he would get like this AND become horribly irritable and explosive, especially if he thought he was being kept from his stress relief of choice (too much information). It's literally like he falls into this scratch in his mental record that just keeps skipping and playing over and over. Does that qualify as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)? LOL And I feel my own anxiety start up when he starts complaining (that's the old codependent in me), but I'm working hard to detach (with love) and try to help him through this without taking on HIS anxiety as if that would help it go away. :knockedout: He called this morning to talk to the kids before they left for school :) I know this makes him feel better and more connected to us all. We're going to be in L.A. Monday for a GI appointment for difficult child 1, so I'm planning to take the kids by his office to meet him for lunch... maybe we'll hang out at a museum and go to dinner too. [/QUOTE]
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