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<blockquote data-quote="dawnmyst" data-source="post: 220405" data-attributes="member: 6401"><p>Thank-you so much for all of your inputs. I really can't believe how supportive everyone is and I can tell that everyone of us has a different child and different experience, but one thing remains the same; we truly love our difficult child's very much and we will try absolutely anything to help our difficult child's become happy, stable and healthy. I am so surprised that many of you have experienced similar things. I was feeling so alone when it came to my difficult child.</p><p></p><p>Today I talked to difficult child's probation officer and told him the story about my son jumping out of the moving car. He lined up a therapist to meet with my difficult child today. Unfortunately I couldn't go because of my work schedule but my ex took my son to probation and the therapist. The probation officer told my difficult child that if he pulls anymore stunts like this that he will have to go to the courts. MY son is now in a JV diversion program to avoid the courts for damaging property and breaking and entering. </p><p></p><p>My ex still thinks that I am too hard on difficult child because I made a list of rules and I am enforcing consequences like cutting off the cell phone and removing clothing items. I honestly don't think I am that hard on him. I plan on sticking with the program. My ex said the therapist said that I had too many rules but they were rules that shouldn't have to be written out. My difficult child should understand that the rules are basic for behaving in the world like having respect, asking permission to go somewhere, no stealing, no drugs, do homework, etc. I must talk to the therapist because I don't trust my ex and everything he says.</p><p></p><p>We will be going to family counseling starting this Thursday evening and I think this is a long time coming. ( it is mandated by Family Court ) My ex is very manipulative himself and he used to manipulate me tremendously but I worked with a therapist myself for years to get beyond that. I still slip up here and there though.</p><p></p><p>Also my difficult child had to take a drug test at probation and he tested negative. I am not sure what type of drugs my son was tested for.</p><p></p><p>I picked my son up tonight from his Dad's and he was talking about basketball and seemed pretty calm. Of course I didn't challenge him at all about doing homework, etc. I will be seeing a therapist for myself on Wed. and the group therapist on Thurs. so I am just laying low for a few days. Everything will be brought up again about the car incident on Thursday night.</p><p></p><p>From all of your advice I've decided to stick with the program but lay low until I see the family therapist. He is going to continue to get tested for drugs at probation. The Holidays are coming and difficult child will be staying with his Dad for a couple of weeks.</p><p></p><p>I agree that there may be something more going on besides ODD and I am going to try my best to find out what that is.</p><p></p><p>Good night to all of you wonderful mommies out there and let your children be safe from harm. Sleep well and take care of yourselves because without you... our children would be lost in the wilderness of this crazy world...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dawnmyst, post: 220405, member: 6401"] Thank-you so much for all of your inputs. I really can't believe how supportive everyone is and I can tell that everyone of us has a different child and different experience, but one thing remains the same; we truly love our difficult child's very much and we will try absolutely anything to help our difficult child's become happy, stable and healthy. I am so surprised that many of you have experienced similar things. I was feeling so alone when it came to my difficult child. Today I talked to difficult child's probation officer and told him the story about my son jumping out of the moving car. He lined up a therapist to meet with my difficult child today. Unfortunately I couldn't go because of my work schedule but my ex took my son to probation and the therapist. The probation officer told my difficult child that if he pulls anymore stunts like this that he will have to go to the courts. MY son is now in a JV diversion program to avoid the courts for damaging property and breaking and entering. My ex still thinks that I am too hard on difficult child because I made a list of rules and I am enforcing consequences like cutting off the cell phone and removing clothing items. I honestly don't think I am that hard on him. I plan on sticking with the program. My ex said the therapist said that I had too many rules but they were rules that shouldn't have to be written out. My difficult child should understand that the rules are basic for behaving in the world like having respect, asking permission to go somewhere, no stealing, no drugs, do homework, etc. I must talk to the therapist because I don't trust my ex and everything he says. We will be going to family counseling starting this Thursday evening and I think this is a long time coming. ( it is mandated by Family Court ) My ex is very manipulative himself and he used to manipulate me tremendously but I worked with a therapist myself for years to get beyond that. I still slip up here and there though. Also my difficult child had to take a drug test at probation and he tested negative. I am not sure what type of drugs my son was tested for. I picked my son up tonight from his Dad's and he was talking about basketball and seemed pretty calm. Of course I didn't challenge him at all about doing homework, etc. I will be seeing a therapist for myself on Wed. and the group therapist on Thurs. so I am just laying low for a few days. Everything will be brought up again about the car incident on Thursday night. From all of your advice I've decided to stick with the program but lay low until I see the family therapist. He is going to continue to get tested for drugs at probation. The Holidays are coming and difficult child will be staying with his Dad for a couple of weeks. I agree that there may be something more going on besides ODD and I am going to try my best to find out what that is. Good night to all of you wonderful mommies out there and let your children be safe from harm. Sleep well and take care of yourselves because without you... our children would be lost in the wilderness of this crazy world... [/QUOTE]
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