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MY ex and my mom are trying to drive me insane!! (Rant)
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 566834" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Save the texts or photo them at least. (Can you lock them) let him rant next time but don't give in.save everything, record everything. </p><p>You have discussed your mom many times. I'm trying to think how to say this so you can hear my tone is caring and understanding. You allow her to do many jobs that parents typically do and it's ok to need support. But she probably feels more like a mom to them. You admit your boundaries with her are poor. I have been there and we went to family counseling so I get its hard but the solution really wasnt. We all agreed we.love eachother and simply no more fixing things for eachother, only encouragement allowed etc. Now years later we help eachother in true normal emergencies or typical mother and sister things. Right now, You like the care your mom gives you and don't seem ready to tell her to stop so somehow have to let go of her judgement until you can decide you want to live a more independent life. It's not a judgement its just how it is and you really do have power. </p><p></p><p>by the way, I have limited Xmas, last year was desperate. Call the salvation army and get on their list (or toys for tots) people here recommended that to me and it was actually a nice experience. I ended up volunteering there too. Fifty dollars was 100 less than my former complex! Even when there was a bank error! Sorry abt that. I keep an alarm repeating reminder in my phone to pay rent.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 566834, member: 12886"] Save the texts or photo them at least. (Can you lock them) let him rant next time but don't give in.save everything, record everything. You have discussed your mom many times. I'm trying to think how to say this so you can hear my tone is caring and understanding. You allow her to do many jobs that parents typically do and it's ok to need support. But she probably feels more like a mom to them. You admit your boundaries with her are poor. I have been there and we went to family counseling so I get its hard but the solution really wasnt. We all agreed we.love eachother and simply no more fixing things for eachother, only encouragement allowed etc. Now years later we help eachother in true normal emergencies or typical mother and sister things. Right now, You like the care your mom gives you and don't seem ready to tell her to stop so somehow have to let go of her judgement until you can decide you want to live a more independent life. It's not a judgement its just how it is and you really do have power. by the way, I have limited Xmas, last year was desperate. Call the salvation army and get on their list (or toys for tots) people here recommended that to me and it was actually a nice experience. I ended up volunteering there too. Fifty dollars was 100 less than my former complex! Even when there was a bank error! Sorry abt that. I keep an alarm repeating reminder in my phone to pay rent. [/QUOTE]
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