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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 319298" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Flutterby - you have my wholehearted support on this. Hindsight being 20/20, I should've banned books a long time ago, not because of the subject matter but because of thank you's tenuous grasp of reality. I'm pretty liberal and feel that everyone has to explore life/philosophy/spirituality and make the choices that are right for them. At the time, I felt that thank you's exploration of alternate spiritualities was okay and I was being a "good" parent in not discourage him. I think I was really *really* wrong on that one.</p><p> </p><p>The problem comes in when you have a child whose thought processes are so totally skewed that they view a belief system as a "fix" for their problems. And you really nailed it - some of the more, uh, different belief systems out there seem to just feed into the thinking our of difficult children. It seems to perpetuate that sense of alienation and me-me-me... To my eye, some of the darker stuff (and I also had to stop reading the stuff because it was just vile) encourages the belief of their differences and their power, all in a vein that is totally outside any social norm. I hope that makes sense - basically, it seemed to encourage thank you to say the heck with real "normal" life as we all live it and promote his sense of being special and above it all. That's dangerous in my humble opinion.</p><p> </p><p>I still believe exploration is normal and while I try to stay open-minded, the basic golden rule of do unto others (or even the Wiccan do no harm) is such a fundamental part of my being that I cannot and will not allow this other stuff in my home. thank you, at least, has an amazing capacity to twist virtually any spirituality into a self-serving philosophy that loses any resemblance to it's original intent.</p><p> </p><p>Bottom line - it's your home. You absolutely have the right to dictate what is allowed in your home. Not only will I not purchase the stuff, but if it comes into my home, it is tossed in the garbage immediately.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 319298, member: 8"] Flutterby - you have my wholehearted support on this. Hindsight being 20/20, I should've banned books a long time ago, not because of the subject matter but because of thank you's tenuous grasp of reality. I'm pretty liberal and feel that everyone has to explore life/philosophy/spirituality and make the choices that are right for them. At the time, I felt that thank you's exploration of alternate spiritualities was okay and I was being a "good" parent in not discourage him. I think I was really *really* wrong on that one. The problem comes in when you have a child whose thought processes are so totally skewed that they view a belief system as a "fix" for their problems. And you really nailed it - some of the more, uh, different belief systems out there seem to just feed into the thinking our of difficult children. It seems to perpetuate that sense of alienation and me-me-me... To my eye, some of the darker stuff (and I also had to stop reading the stuff because it was just vile) encourages the belief of their differences and their power, all in a vein that is totally outside any social norm. I hope that makes sense - basically, it seemed to encourage thank you to say the heck with real "normal" life as we all live it and promote his sense of being special and above it all. That's dangerous in my humble opinion. I still believe exploration is normal and while I try to stay open-minded, the basic golden rule of do unto others (or even the Wiccan do no harm) is such a fundamental part of my being that I cannot and will not allow this other stuff in my home. thank you, at least, has an amazing capacity to twist virtually any spirituality into a self-serving philosophy that loses any resemblance to it's original intent. Bottom line - it's your home. You absolutely have the right to dictate what is allowed in your home. Not only will I not purchase the stuff, but if it comes into my home, it is tossed in the garbage immediately. [/QUOTE]
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