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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 182271" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Welcome. This is a safe haven here.</p><p></p><p>Some suggestions.</p><p></p><p>First, especially if you need to keep things confidential, make sure you do not have anything public on this forum that could identify you or your children. In other words, no names of people, names of places etc. Keep these as general as you can because, sorry to say, your problems then could be anybody's because too many people have similar issues. So lose yourself in anonymity and pseudonyms.</p><p></p><p>Find a name for yourself as a pseudonym which will not identify you. That way you will be much freer to post, knowing you can't be tracked. And no matter how tempting, do not tell people you know about this website. Even other parents of problem kids. it's really hard to leave them in the cold, but you especially need your confidentiality respected. Let's just hope someone else directs people who need it to this site, or they find it for themselves. Just as long as the person on the screen can't be linked for sure to the person you are in your street.</p><p></p><p>Second - a book that has helped a lot of us is "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. There are other books, other ideas etc but THIS book is something you can do NOW in terms of parenting and discipline. It's also probably easier than your current struggle. It's something you can do while waiting for all the medical stuff etc to get sorted out.</p><p></p><p>Third - do a sig when you can (remember the confidentiality, though).</p><p></p><p>Fourth - not that you're doing this, but when you reply to a post, you don't need to reply to everyone in a separate message. One message fits all. if you have something to say to someone individually you can either send them a PM (Private Message) so only they can see it, or you simply address them by name in the one message. For example, you might write, "BBK, you mentioned X, I wanted to assure you we've dealt with that. And Marg, I think that it's Y sometimes but we've done all we can." </p><p></p><p>It makes it a lot less trouble and time for you.</p><p></p><p>Following on from MidwestMom's thought on medication abuse - if the medications aren't working too well, how certain are you that he's taking them, and not cheeking them to spit out later and swap for other drugs? You might do well to also post on the Substance Abuse forum and pick their brains over there, to help you catch on fast to any tricks he might be trying on you.</p><p></p><p>Here's hoping you've got on to him early.</p><p></p><p>Glad you found us.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 182271, member: 1991"] Welcome. This is a safe haven here. Some suggestions. First, especially if you need to keep things confidential, make sure you do not have anything public on this forum that could identify you or your children. In other words, no names of people, names of places etc. Keep these as general as you can because, sorry to say, your problems then could be anybody's because too many people have similar issues. So lose yourself in anonymity and pseudonyms. Find a name for yourself as a pseudonym which will not identify you. That way you will be much freer to post, knowing you can't be tracked. And no matter how tempting, do not tell people you know about this website. Even other parents of problem kids. it's really hard to leave them in the cold, but you especially need your confidentiality respected. Let's just hope someone else directs people who need it to this site, or they find it for themselves. Just as long as the person on the screen can't be linked for sure to the person you are in your street. Second - a book that has helped a lot of us is "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. There are other books, other ideas etc but THIS book is something you can do NOW in terms of parenting and discipline. It's also probably easier than your current struggle. It's something you can do while waiting for all the medical stuff etc to get sorted out. Third - do a sig when you can (remember the confidentiality, though). Fourth - not that you're doing this, but when you reply to a post, you don't need to reply to everyone in a separate message. One message fits all. if you have something to say to someone individually you can either send them a PM (Private Message) so only they can see it, or you simply address them by name in the one message. For example, you might write, "BBK, you mentioned X, I wanted to assure you we've dealt with that. And Marg, I think that it's Y sometimes but we've done all we can." It makes it a lot less trouble and time for you. Following on from MidwestMom's thought on medication abuse - if the medications aren't working too well, how certain are you that he's taking them, and not cheeking them to spit out later and swap for other drugs? You might do well to also post on the Substance Abuse forum and pick their brains over there, to help you catch on fast to any tricks he might be trying on you. Here's hoping you've got on to him early. Glad you found us. Marg [/QUOTE]
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