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My h stays angry and upset about our difficult child
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 536293"><p>Oh PV -I hear you. been there done that with and h too. </p><p></p><p>It kind of reminds me of those months of pregnancy & the newborn days. I was ott emotionally and concerned with the baby & doing right by him or my pregnancy, the best crib mattress, best menu choices, or adjusting the siblings to the new baby, and "how I would handle it all." (mostly from an emotional standpoint) To me, it was about cherishing the new child.</p><p></p><p>While I was doing all this & really needed h's emotional support-he was throwing himself into work. Because the response the new baby triggered for him was that he felt this HUGE FINANCIAL responsibility to provide for us (tho I worked). (to the point that he was on the cell phone with his office from the moment we got in the car bringing pc15 home from the hospital. Egads) </p><p></p><p>Parenting stress (good and bad) triggered financial stress for my h. I think that's true of a lot of men. I guess what I am trying to get across is that this life change triggered huge reactions in both of us-nurturing in me, financial concern for h. I think that can be true with the life change that goes along with a difficult child too. </p><p></p><p>I try to recognize this in us and say (and often pray) "Let us remember to turn TO each other and not ON each other."</p><p></p><p>{{{hugs}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 536293"] Oh PV -I hear you. been there done that with and h too. It kind of reminds me of those months of pregnancy & the newborn days. I was ott emotionally and concerned with the baby & doing right by him or my pregnancy, the best crib mattress, best menu choices, or adjusting the siblings to the new baby, and "how I would handle it all." (mostly from an emotional standpoint) To me, it was about cherishing the new child. While I was doing all this & really needed h's emotional support-he was throwing himself into work. Because the response the new baby triggered for him was that he felt this HUGE FINANCIAL responsibility to provide for us (tho I worked). (to the point that he was on the cell phone with his office from the moment we got in the car bringing pc15 home from the hospital. Egads) Parenting stress (good and bad) triggered financial stress for my h. I think that's true of a lot of men. I guess what I am trying to get across is that this life change triggered huge reactions in both of us-nurturing in me, financial concern for h. I think that can be true with the life change that goes along with a difficult child too. I try to recognize this in us and say (and often pray) "Let us remember to turn TO each other and not ON each other." {{{hugs}}} [/QUOTE]
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