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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 64759" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Truthfully, I tend to think it is better for her not to see her</p><p>Daddy while he is incarcertated. I don't know how they do it in</p><p>your community but here (I understand as I refuse to do jail visits) the visits are done by camera/video/whatever. It is not</p><p>intimate in any way and at six she probably would then want to hug him or kiss him and would be further upset because it is not</p><p>allowed. According to easy child/difficult child the other inmates are visible in the background, they can be heard (not appropriate for a little</p><p>girl) and..I believe..Tink would be observed by other men who are</p><p>locked up. Personally, with all the scarey people in the world</p><p>I wouldn't want to take a chance that my small child would be</p><p>observed by potential weirdos.</p><p></p><p>To me it makes sense to tell Tink that her Daddy did not take care of papers what were suppose to taken care of and because of</p><p>that he is in jail for a little while. He is fine. Yes, he will</p><p>miss her during the time he is not home but he does not want her</p><p>to come visit. Then end it on an up note, for example, Daddy would love to get a pretty picture or a dictated letter etc.</p><p>That way she is "doing what Daddy wants" and "Mommy thinks is best" AND she gets to take a positive action.</p><p></p><p>I don't know that I am right...but I think I am. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 64759, member: 35"] Truthfully, I tend to think it is better for her not to see her Daddy while he is incarcertated. I don't know how they do it in your community but here (I understand as I refuse to do jail visits) the visits are done by camera/video/whatever. It is not intimate in any way and at six she probably would then want to hug him or kiss him and would be further upset because it is not allowed. According to easy child/difficult child the other inmates are visible in the background, they can be heard (not appropriate for a little girl) and..I believe..Tink would be observed by other men who are locked up. Personally, with all the scarey people in the world I wouldn't want to take a chance that my small child would be observed by potential weirdos. To me it makes sense to tell Tink that her Daddy did not take care of papers what were suppose to taken care of and because of that he is in jail for a little while. He is fine. Yes, he will miss her during the time he is not home but he does not want her to come visit. Then end it on an up note, for example, Daddy would love to get a pretty picture or a dictated letter etc. That way she is "doing what Daddy wants" and "Mommy thinks is best" AND she gets to take a positive action. I don't know that I am right...but I think I am. DDD [/QUOTE]
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