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My husband and I feeling we are being held hostage by our homeless son.
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<blockquote data-quote="Acacia" data-source="post: 748679" data-attributes="member: 19832"><p>Astrea, it's a long, hard road with our difficult adult children who refuse to grow up. I agree with those who have said it's time for your son to move out. This is tough stuff, and not in a parent's nature, and it hurts like hell, but it's essential for both your welfare and for your son's. He will either sink or swim, but he is the one to decide that. </p><p></p><p>I have a 33 year old difficult son. I have refused to let him live with me since he was 19 because of his failure to follow rules, verbal abuse, substance abuse, etc. Even without him living with me, the level of stress has been awful. I have helped him with $ for rent, cars, food, and on and on. Each time, I think, he's finally getting it and finally changing, but after fifteen years I have to admit, that except for short periods of time, he has not grown up or shown concern for the financial and emotional stress he has caused to our family. He never calls unless it's for some new need.</p><p></p><p>Just last night I blocked his number after he called needing a ride and place to stay after being pulled over with an unregistered vehicle. I did not pick him up. I did not answer the phone. I have made the choice, that even though I love my son and want only the best for him, his behavior does not show love for me, and I am determined to take care of myself. At 66 I have decided to put myself first.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting and know that you deserve to be treated with respect. Show you mean it by doing whatever you need to make your home a safe haven.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Acacia, post: 748679, member: 19832"] Astrea, it's a long, hard road with our difficult adult children who refuse to grow up. I agree with those who have said it's time for your son to move out. This is tough stuff, and not in a parent's nature, and it hurts like hell, but it's essential for both your welfare and for your son's. He will either sink or swim, but he is the one to decide that. I have a 33 year old difficult son. I have refused to let him live with me since he was 19 because of his failure to follow rules, verbal abuse, substance abuse, etc. Even without him living with me, the level of stress has been awful. I have helped him with $ for rent, cars, food, and on and on. Each time, I think, he's finally getting it and finally changing, but after fifteen years I have to admit, that except for short periods of time, he has not grown up or shown concern for the financial and emotional stress he has caused to our family. He never calls unless it's for some new need. Just last night I blocked his number after he called needing a ride and place to stay after being pulled over with an unregistered vehicle. I did not pick him up. I did not answer the phone. I have made the choice, that even though I love my son and want only the best for him, his behavior does not show love for me, and I am determined to take care of myself. At 66 I have decided to put myself first. Keep posting and know that you deserve to be treated with respect. Show you mean it by doing whatever you need to make your home a safe haven. [/QUOTE]
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