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MY husband isn't supportive of the issues with difficult child...feel alone...
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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 461660" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>Well, since he is supposed to be your partner in life as well as parenting, I would expect him to listen to you and how your week went, just as he expects you to listen to his. He probably should listen to you more than you him because HIS child is in your care, and he should be equally concerned about her upbringing. Having said that, unfortunately that's not how it works out in real life, even in the best relationships.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>????? What exactly doe he mean by that? Of course he is not her mother, he's her FATHER. Not surprised that Izzy isn't phased by this. What she's hearing is "I'm just the weekend visitor that brings home a paycheck. I have no power over you" Seriously. That's the exact statement I have made to other ppl's kids when I find out that they've done something I so don't approve of and in my opinion their mother has gone way to easy on them. I have ZERO power over other kids and how other moms discipline their kids. This is how I express my disapproval. As her FATHER he has a say in what goes on. Since he's not initiating the conversation with you, you must initiate it with him. "Hon, what do you think we should do? How should we respond? What should her consequences be?"</p><p></p><p>I'm gonna go out on a limb and assume you already have tried to have such a conversation, and his suggestions are things you've already tried - unsuccessfully. Or he might suggest something that goes against your grain, and he insists that YOU should enforce things HIS way even when HE's home to do some enforcing of his own. I hope I didn't get that right. If you didn't' figure it out, that's what I had to deal with, so I truly hope that's not what's going on for you.</p><p></p><p>So, if you haven't already done so, you need to open up the lines of communication as it relates to Izzy and dealing with her. You need to have a united front with her. It really tough to see, but if you want to see it, there IS a silver lining here. She's not an "angel" on the weekends for his benefit. She has an 'equal opportunity' issue so he DOES get to see what goes on even if it is only on the weekends.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 461660, member: 11965"] Well, since he is supposed to be your partner in life as well as parenting, I would expect him to listen to you and how your week went, just as he expects you to listen to his. He probably should listen to you more than you him because HIS child is in your care, and he should be equally concerned about her upbringing. Having said that, unfortunately that's not how it works out in real life, even in the best relationships. ????? What exactly doe he mean by that? Of course he is not her mother, he's her FATHER. Not surprised that Izzy isn't phased by this. What she's hearing is "I'm just the weekend visitor that brings home a paycheck. I have no power over you" Seriously. That's the exact statement I have made to other ppl's kids when I find out that they've done something I so don't approve of and in my opinion their mother has gone way to easy on them. I have ZERO power over other kids and how other moms discipline their kids. This is how I express my disapproval. As her FATHER he has a say in what goes on. Since he's not initiating the conversation with you, you must initiate it with him. "Hon, what do you think we should do? How should we respond? What should her consequences be?" I'm gonna go out on a limb and assume you already have tried to have such a conversation, and his suggestions are things you've already tried - unsuccessfully. Or he might suggest something that goes against your grain, and he insists that YOU should enforce things HIS way even when HE's home to do some enforcing of his own. I hope I didn't get that right. If you didn't' figure it out, that's what I had to deal with, so I truly hope that's not what's going on for you. So, if you haven't already done so, you need to open up the lines of communication as it relates to Izzy and dealing with her. You need to have a united front with her. It really tough to see, but if you want to see it, there IS a silver lining here. She's not an "angel" on the weekends for his benefit. She has an 'equal opportunity' issue so he DOES get to see what goes on even if it is only on the weekends. [/QUOTE]
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