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<blockquote data-quote="tishthedish" data-source="post: 759444" data-attributes="member: 17103"><p>Thank you all so much for your very insightful replies. I am sorry to hear of your losses to Covid. This disease is insidious and aggressive. From all the doctors I have talked to with my own case and in my husbands one thing becomes clear, They do not have a handle on this or how to treat it. Research on it is in its infancy. They are blindfolded and Throwing darts. This doesn’t imply progress has not been made but that affect on vascular, neurological, pulmonary functions and beyond are just beginning to show themselves in a way that can be recorded and analyzed meaningfully.</p><p></p><p>Our family was very respectful of the dangers and acted appropriately. I have some friends who had been even more vigilant, and how I wish we had gone above and beyond the recommended protocol. It would have been such a small sacrifice/inconvenience to made given how our lives have been forever altered. And the thing is, with my husband retired and us cloistered at home we were HAPPY. We loved the alone time together and were having fun and enjoying the leisurely pace and a schedule of meals , favorite tv programs, walks, sleep and talks that we had heretofore been unable to partake due to our work schedules and the demands of 2 difficult sons from childhood right into adulthood and a special needs grandson we had custody of. Some things have resolved like our younger son and the situation with our grandson, while heartbreaking because this year the school in WI that enabled us to see him once per week said they could no longer handle his aggressions and he was moved to a new school in KS. We seen him once since last March. He doesn’t understand the why, but I am sure he feels our absence. God bless this beloved child, he knows his people.</p><p></p><p>My son lived on the streets of Chicago by choice. Not a shelter, but on the streets, under a viaduct, he doesn't get too specific. I believe him. He is a loner and having others around him would chafe. We have offered to buy him a place (townhouse/condo) the only condition is that he have to apply for public assistance of some sort as we cannot afford to take full responsibility for him forever. If we purchase something he has to have some skin in the game. He says no. It should be a gift, so his lack of willingness is a non-starter and he shuts down any conversation with a loud voice and accusations. </p><p>I have to handle this and I don't know if there's a way to do it to preserve amiable contact with my eldest. I pray to be shown the way and given the right words. It was so much easier with my husband here. We were a team. Now, I think I am seen as the softer touch, needy and vulnerable. </p><p>Thank you for all your input, feedback and kind words. They are like balm on my tired heart. The complications of these illnesses are unrelenting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tishthedish, post: 759444, member: 17103"] Thank you all so much for your very insightful replies. I am sorry to hear of your losses to Covid. This disease is insidious and aggressive. From all the doctors I have talked to with my own case and in my husbands one thing becomes clear, They do not have a handle on this or how to treat it. Research on it is in its infancy. They are blindfolded and Throwing darts. This doesn’t imply progress has not been made but that affect on vascular, neurological, pulmonary functions and beyond are just beginning to show themselves in a way that can be recorded and analyzed meaningfully. Our family was very respectful of the dangers and acted appropriately. I have some friends who had been even more vigilant, and how I wish we had gone above and beyond the recommended protocol. It would have been such a small sacrifice/inconvenience to made given how our lives have been forever altered. And the thing is, with my husband retired and us cloistered at home we were HAPPY. We loved the alone time together and were having fun and enjoying the leisurely pace and a schedule of meals , favorite tv programs, walks, sleep and talks that we had heretofore been unable to partake due to our work schedules and the demands of 2 difficult sons from childhood right into adulthood and a special needs grandson we had custody of. Some things have resolved like our younger son and the situation with our grandson, while heartbreaking because this year the school in WI that enabled us to see him once per week said they could no longer handle his aggressions and he was moved to a new school in KS. We seen him once since last March. He doesn’t understand the why, but I am sure he feels our absence. God bless this beloved child, he knows his people. My son lived on the streets of Chicago by choice. Not a shelter, but on the streets, under a viaduct, he doesn't get too specific. I believe him. He is a loner and having others around him would chafe. We have offered to buy him a place (townhouse/condo) the only condition is that he have to apply for public assistance of some sort as we cannot afford to take full responsibility for him forever. If we purchase something he has to have some skin in the game. He says no. It should be a gift, so his lack of willingness is a non-starter and he shuts down any conversation with a loud voice and accusations. I have to handle this and I don't know if there's a way to do it to preserve amiable contact with my eldest. I pray to be shown the way and given the right words. It was so much easier with my husband here. We were a team. Now, I think I am seen as the softer touch, needy and vulnerable. Thank you for all your input, feedback and kind words. They are like balm on my tired heart. The complications of these illnesses are unrelenting. [/QUOTE]
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