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<blockquote data-quote="cher" data-source="post: 557943" data-attributes="member: 1731"><p>My husband and I are in late 40's we are both from loving families. We tried to do the same with our children. My daughter has never thought we were good enough she always choosed he boyfriend moms over me I don't know why. We paid for her wedding and we were wrote off. My son has always been a difficult child since he was 12 trouble in school pot drinking whatever he could get his hands on. He was in and out of trouble all the time. I used to come home and the house would be spotless and I knew something was up. He always was sorry for whatever and I always forgave him. I know this is wrong I enabled his behavior. I would be mad and thought if I just loved him more. I already bailed him out 2 this year. He always says he will get help and I always have hope. He is sitting in jail since Sept 27th I first told him I would talk to dad and we would get him out. then realized it is never going to stop and I feel safer when he is in jail. I had wrote him a letter explaining that I would not be bailing him out and I would still like to visit. I also told him that if he wanted bail (he has money coming in a month) I would deposit the check to his account and he could bail himself out. I showed up for visit last night and it was a nightmare. He was saying the girl lied he did nothing wrong but drink. I have seen his drunks and wittiness him throwing a brick through a window and trying to stop him from doing so. He went to jail and I bailed him out cause he said he would get help, well he did not. A few months later a drunk disorderly charge not his fault I bailed him out. Well this time I did not and he is threatening suicide, revenge etc all in 9 minutes of the visit I walked out on. It became clear to me I could waste my money on bail but he would not use his. He wants out now and told me he would pay me back. I am not willing to risk my house on that promise. I know this is for the best he is out of control I guess my guilt comes from the fact that I decided to get tough while he was in jail cause I felt safe. He is almost 30 and this has to end. I am not mommy any more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="cher, post: 557943, member: 1731"] My husband and I are in late 40's we are both from loving families. We tried to do the same with our children. My daughter has never thought we were good enough she always choosed he boyfriend moms over me I don't know why. We paid for her wedding and we were wrote off. My son has always been a difficult child since he was 12 trouble in school pot drinking whatever he could get his hands on. He was in and out of trouble all the time. I used to come home and the house would be spotless and I knew something was up. He always was sorry for whatever and I always forgave him. I know this is wrong I enabled his behavior. I would be mad and thought if I just loved him more. I already bailed him out 2 this year. He always says he will get help and I always have hope. He is sitting in jail since Sept 27th I first told him I would talk to dad and we would get him out. then realized it is never going to stop and I feel safer when he is in jail. I had wrote him a letter explaining that I would not be bailing him out and I would still like to visit. I also told him that if he wanted bail (he has money coming in a month) I would deposit the check to his account and he could bail himself out. I showed up for visit last night and it was a nightmare. He was saying the girl lied he did nothing wrong but drink. I have seen his drunks and wittiness him throwing a brick through a window and trying to stop him from doing so. He went to jail and I bailed him out cause he said he would get help, well he did not. A few months later a drunk disorderly charge not his fault I bailed him out. Well this time I did not and he is threatening suicide, revenge etc all in 9 minutes of the visit I walked out on. It became clear to me I could waste my money on bail but he would not use his. He wants out now and told me he would pay me back. I am not willing to risk my house on that promise. I know this is for the best he is out of control I guess my guilt comes from the fact that I decided to get tough while he was in jail cause I felt safe. He is almost 30 and this has to end. I am not mommy any more. [/QUOTE]
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