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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 476722" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Must be hard to see/hear. I totally admit to some bad mommy moments. I have lost it at times. But I dont think more than a parent of a typical kid. Mostly people say (when I feel i have lost control) that I seem really calm when I talk to difficult child. i know for sure he will just match the intensity of whoever is talking to him as well as he goes into fight/flight. I dont think yelling helps a difficult child but there have been a few times it probably helped me a little. i dont think I ever got mad over not coming in etc...I think it was more over finding my video camera in his hand iwth all of the not yet downloaded film of my dead grandma GONE and used for NASCAR tv filming...sigh. Those are the kinds of times I found myself not talking in the way i would want to normally. Even then, i usually catch myself and leave and cool off to deal with it. I dont think any neighbor would ever say they have heard me yell. So, is it normal? Once in a while I would think so, and it depends on what they are saying...is it to just come in or is it demeaning etc. Do I think it is OK, not really. I hate when I have done it. I know it hurts his feelings and makes him angry. I can get the same thing accomplished with a stern tone and/or logical consequences.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 476722, member: 12886"] Must be hard to see/hear. I totally admit to some bad mommy moments. I have lost it at times. But I dont think more than a parent of a typical kid. Mostly people say (when I feel i have lost control) that I seem really calm when I talk to difficult child. i know for sure he will just match the intensity of whoever is talking to him as well as he goes into fight/flight. I dont think yelling helps a difficult child but there have been a few times it probably helped me a little. i dont think I ever got mad over not coming in etc...I think it was more over finding my video camera in his hand iwth all of the not yet downloaded film of my dead grandma GONE and used for NASCAR tv filming...sigh. Those are the kinds of times I found myself not talking in the way i would want to normally. Even then, i usually catch myself and leave and cool off to deal with it. I dont think any neighbor would ever say they have heard me yell. So, is it normal? Once in a while I would think so, and it depends on what they are saying...is it to just come in or is it demeaning etc. Do I think it is OK, not really. I hate when I have done it. I know it hurts his feelings and makes him angry. I can get the same thing accomplished with a stern tone and/or logical consequences. [/QUOTE]
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