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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 476789" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>LOL - I wish I had the answer klmno. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> It's recently come to my attn that isolation seems to have been my MO for dealing with- stuff for the last 25 years... I think having been on this board for almost 13 years is a bit of a blip for me. I'm quite certain <strong><u><em>I</em></u> </strong>would not have taken kindly to any well-intentioned neighbors back in the dark ages, but that's just me. It's impossible to predict how she would react. Some people are open to unsolicited support, some aren't. Some people (ahem) have to do things on their own terms, in their own way, no matter how much of a challenge it is. I think the saying about leading mules to water but not being able to force them to drink not only applies to difficult children but to parents too sometimes. Not intentionally, but... I think it's a whole mess of guilt, fear, failure, grief, holy-COW-how-did-we-end-up-here, all rolled up into one big thing.</p><p></p><p>I think offering friendship, without anticipating sharing books or websites or anything else (at least initially), might be the way to go. See where it takes you. She may be in need of a friend - she may not. Who knows...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 476789, member: 8"] LOL - I wish I had the answer klmno. :winking: It's recently come to my attn that isolation seems to have been my MO for dealing with- stuff for the last 25 years... I think having been on this board for almost 13 years is a bit of a blip for me. I'm quite certain [B][U][I]I[/I][/U] [/B]would not have taken kindly to any well-intentioned neighbors back in the dark ages, but that's just me. It's impossible to predict how she would react. Some people are open to unsolicited support, some aren't. Some people (ahem) have to do things on their own terms, in their own way, no matter how much of a challenge it is. I think the saying about leading mules to water but not being able to force them to drink not only applies to difficult children but to parents too sometimes. Not intentionally, but... I think it's a whole mess of guilt, fear, failure, grief, holy-COW-how-did-we-end-up-here, all rolled up into one big thing. I think offering friendship, without anticipating sharing books or websites or anything else (at least initially), might be the way to go. See where it takes you. She may be in need of a friend - she may not. Who knows... [/QUOTE]
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