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<blockquote data-quote="Estranged2015" data-source="post: 649000" data-attributes="member: 18760"><p>Right. It may be that wanting to help reveals the kind of messianic thinking and even narcissism suggested in comments like that AA person's "you must be very powerful!". ( I know that comment was helpful to the member of this discussion group to whom it was said, and that's great; but to me, I must admit, it sounds disingenuous and a little patronizing.). Cedar's point seems to me to be that we are all just trying to be parents, but our difficult children can make it impossible. It isn't necessarily true, I think, that we are that different from other parents. That's what I think at this minute, at least – sometimes I think my son could not be what he is today if I had not helped make it pay off for him in some way, if I had not been an enabler. I am trying to get my mind around that, in preparation for any further demands/pleas from him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Estranged2015, post: 649000, member: 18760"] Right. It may be that wanting to help reveals the kind of messianic thinking and even narcissism suggested in comments like that AA person's "you must be very powerful!". ( I know that comment was helpful to the member of this discussion group to whom it was said, and that's great; but to me, I must admit, it sounds disingenuous and a little patronizing.). Cedar's point seems to me to be that we are all just trying to be parents, but our difficult children can make it impossible. It isn't necessarily true, I think, that we are that different from other parents. That's what I think at this minute, at least – sometimes I think my son could not be what he is today if I had not helped make it pay off for him in some way, if I had not been an enabler. I am trying to get my mind around that, in preparation for any further demands/pleas from him. [/QUOTE]
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