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My son burned our house down.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 687533" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I don't know why I didn't think to add this.</p><p></p><p>If you adopted him through our country's foster care system, he must have medical coverage and you'd likely have an adoption subsidy. They took our kid's medical assistance and used his subsidy until the adoption was finally severed. We did have to pay child support until the adoption was severed, but we did it no problem. I had two traumatized babies and two beloved dogs dead. My kids were terrified of him and kept making sure he would not come back and as they trusted us not to bring him.home, they disclosed more and more things he'd done and for how long.</p><p>He also liked fire. He used to set little fires in his room, we found after he left, and told the kids not to mess with him because he was Satan and if they told us he would burn the house down and we'd all die. After learning about how he terrorized kids (not just mine but I was told other stories too) we realized his entire three years with us had been torture for the children and pets (and in front of us he acted loving toward everyone). His last foster home still doesn't believe what he does, although he admitted prepping since age five in all his foster homes. I don't blame their denial. They ran a daycare, and he loved to help. I'm sure he did love too (cough) help.</p><p></p><p>He has no memory of being abused himself, but obviously he was. And he was damaged to this point before we ever heard of him. But we had to think of the rest of the family and we'd never be safe if he ever came back. He has no remorse. He told people at his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) that he didn't miss us, but that he missed the toys and money he got from us.</p><p></p><p>Make sure your other kids lock their doors at night. Every night.</p><p></p><p>We did not need a lawyer to undo the adoption. We only went to court once and the judge was very understanding. This case was big county news. Due to the severe circumstances, if you make this choice, doubt you'd need one either. It may be different if you adopted him from another country or privately. Not sure.</p><p></p><p>Hugs again and hope you find a solution you can live with.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 687533, member: 1550"] I don't know why I didn't think to add this. If you adopted him through our country's foster care system, he must have medical coverage and you'd likely have an adoption subsidy. They took our kid's medical assistance and used his subsidy until the adoption was finally severed. We did have to pay child support until the adoption was severed, but we did it no problem. I had two traumatized babies and two beloved dogs dead. My kids were terrified of him and kept making sure he would not come back and as they trusted us not to bring him.home, they disclosed more and more things he'd done and for how long. He also liked fire. He used to set little fires in his room, we found after he left, and told the kids not to mess with him because he was Satan and if they told us he would burn the house down and we'd all die. After learning about how he terrorized kids (not just mine but I was told other stories too) we realized his entire three years with us had been torture for the children and pets (and in front of us he acted loving toward everyone). His last foster home still doesn't believe what he does, although he admitted prepping since age five in all his foster homes. I don't blame their denial. They ran a daycare, and he loved to help. I'm sure he did love too (cough) help. He has no memory of being abused himself, but obviously he was. And he was damaged to this point before we ever heard of him. But we had to think of the rest of the family and we'd never be safe if he ever came back. He has no remorse. He told people at his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) that he didn't miss us, but that he missed the toys and money he got from us. Make sure your other kids lock their doors at night. Every night. We did not need a lawyer to undo the adoption. We only went to court once and the judge was very understanding. This case was big county news. Due to the severe circumstances, if you make this choice, doubt you'd need one either. It may be different if you adopted him from another country or privately. Not sure. Hugs again and hope you find a solution you can live with. [/QUOTE]
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