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My son called to ask for a ride to the emergency hospital and he'd explain later.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 655094" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I wrote to you about adults who were drug exposed in utero in another thread. Your son may have brain damage to the point that he will never be able to learn it. I am my autistic son's payee and it works out really well. I think your son sounds like he is very irrational and you may be expecting him to be able to do things he can't do.</p><p></p><p>You're asking when he will learn? He may need adult services to function on his own. Your expectations of him...that he is like other young men...in my opinion are not realistic.</p><p></p><p>At any rate, I wrote about it in another thread to you and you can take it seriously or leave it. It's up to you. But I think your son is different and could have brain damage from both his brain injury and his birthmother's choice to use drugs/drink while she was pregnant. I would try to find adult services that will test him to see if he can get those adult services. If he won't do it, well, then you've done your best. But I'd at least tell him that he needs help and that there IS help for people who need it. Because of the situation...that he could have brain damage...I'd probably even call for him. And I don't know why you wouldn't be your son's payee. This is something he may honestly not be able to handle on his own and there is no shame in having a disability. No matter how much you tell him you believe in him, your son was exposed to drugs and probably alcohol before he was born and this causes thinking and cognitive issues and behavioral problems too. It's nothing to dismiss.</p><p></p><p>Did he have problems in school? Has he ever been able to hold a job? Does he have trouble understanding things? Does he remember things one day, then forget the next day? Did he need an IEP in school? If so, the school should have been helping you plan for his adulthood. Ours did and it's really helped my adult son!</p><p></p><p>Here is an article about people who adopted drug exposed children. You may want to give it a look. We took our son to see the Dr. Chasanoff in this article. He's a pioneer on research of drug exposed children.</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/1990/05/19/us/adopting-drug-babies-special-report-child-rearing-stormy-when-drugs-cloud-birth.html" target="_blank">http://www.nytimes.com/1990/05/19/us/adopting-drug-babies-special-report-child-rearing-stormy-when-drugs-cloud-birth.html</a></p><p></p><p>Anyhow, again, just my thoughts since I've had some experience with pre-birth drug exposed young adults And on this forum you take what you find useful and leave t he rest.</p><p></p><p>Ok, off the soapbox. Good luck <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 655094, member: 1550"] I wrote to you about adults who were drug exposed in utero in another thread. Your son may have brain damage to the point that he will never be able to learn it. I am my autistic son's payee and it works out really well. I think your son sounds like he is very irrational and you may be expecting him to be able to do things he can't do. You're asking when he will learn? He may need adult services to function on his own. Your expectations of him...that he is like other young men...in my opinion are not realistic. At any rate, I wrote about it in another thread to you and you can take it seriously or leave it. It's up to you. But I think your son is different and could have brain damage from both his brain injury and his birthmother's choice to use drugs/drink while she was pregnant. I would try to find adult services that will test him to see if he can get those adult services. If he won't do it, well, then you've done your best. But I'd at least tell him that he needs help and that there IS help for people who need it. Because of the situation...that he could have brain damage...I'd probably even call for him. And I don't know why you wouldn't be your son's payee. This is something he may honestly not be able to handle on his own and there is no shame in having a disability. No matter how much you tell him you believe in him, your son was exposed to drugs and probably alcohol before he was born and this causes thinking and cognitive issues and behavioral problems too. It's nothing to dismiss. Did he have problems in school? Has he ever been able to hold a job? Does he have trouble understanding things? Does he remember things one day, then forget the next day? Did he need an IEP in school? If so, the school should have been helping you plan for his adulthood. Ours did and it's really helped my adult son! Here is an article about people who adopted drug exposed children. You may want to give it a look. We took our son to see the Dr. Chasanoff in this article. He's a pioneer on research of drug exposed children. [URL]http://www.nytimes.com/1990/05/19/us/adopting-drug-babies-special-report-child-rearing-stormy-when-drugs-cloud-birth.html[/URL] Anyhow, again, just my thoughts since I've had some experience with pre-birth drug exposed young adults And on this forum you take what you find useful and leave t he rest. Ok, off the soapbox. Good luck :) [/QUOTE]
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