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My son is home and some other thoughts
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 703152" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Oh I agree he should move out as soon as he can and I think he wants that too.... He doesn't feel good about telling some girl he meets he is living with his parents. LOL. </p><p></p><p>However in his case tough love did not really work. I think the things we have done were necessary at the time. We had a younger child at home.... but being on his own when he wasn't really prepared or ready for it and being homeless did not get him to the place of really being on his own two feet either. And I think the disconnection between us didn't help. </p><p></p><p>I am coming to believe that finding ways to connect with our young adults, even those with substance abuse is really important. Although I can also say that when he was younger I have no idea how we could have done that.</p><p></p><p>But now I think what he needs is connection from us, a feeling of love and support from us if he is ever to launch. I don't think he will be able to launch without that or at least he hasn't so far.</p><p></p><p>It is certainly a balance and i really hope he finds a job soon and can keep moving forward. But I think having some stability at home right now is a good thing. This is a kid who has bounced around and been homeless and on his own and the fact that he is reconnecting with his family is a good thing I think.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 703152, member: 15801"] Oh I agree he should move out as soon as he can and I think he wants that too.... He doesn't feel good about telling some girl he meets he is living with his parents. LOL. However in his case tough love did not really work. I think the things we have done were necessary at the time. We had a younger child at home.... but being on his own when he wasn't really prepared or ready for it and being homeless did not get him to the place of really being on his own two feet either. And I think the disconnection between us didn't help. I am coming to believe that finding ways to connect with our young adults, even those with substance abuse is really important. Although I can also say that when he was younger I have no idea how we could have done that. But now I think what he needs is connection from us, a feeling of love and support from us if he is ever to launch. I don't think he will be able to launch without that or at least he hasn't so far. It is certainly a balance and i really hope he finds a job soon and can keep moving forward. But I think having some stability at home right now is a good thing. This is a kid who has bounced around and been homeless and on his own and the fact that he is reconnecting with his family is a good thing I think. [/QUOTE]
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