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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 674902" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Oh, Quicksand, please do not blame yourself. We are only human, what on earth could we do more?</p><p>There are many times I examined my past, my mothering mistakes. It all boils down to time and circumstance.</p><p>We trust others in community leadership roles to do right by our children, sometimes this does not happen. How would you know? Unfortunately we are learning that pedophiles are very cunning, at times placing themselves in roles where others trust them with their kids. How would you know?</p><p>It is not your fault.</p><p>Our adult children make choices, we cannot be there 24-7 to guide them. Our role as parents is to give them values and guidance that can carry them through the tough times in life, it is entirely up to them, to rely on those teachings.</p><p>Oh, Quicksand, we have all been where you are at. Please do not put things on yourself you have no control over.</p><p>We all are imperfect humans, we all make mistakes. Please do not fall in to the guilt trap, it does absolutely no good.</p><p>I am hoping and praying that you come out of this quickly, and understand that you do not have that much power over your children to cause them disaster in their youth, or their adult lives.</p><p>The guilt does not belong in your court, Quicksand, I am sure you loved your children, LOVE them, to your utmost.</p><p></p><p>If you believe in a higher power, give this over, with your children.</p><p></p><p>When the sadness, guilt and terrible feelings overcome my soul this is what I do. I look up and say "Dear Lord, this is too much for me to handle, you gifted my children to me, I did the best job I could, please, take them again and watch over them."</p><p></p><p>I am praying that you slow.....way....down, take deep breaths, and do not be so harsh on yourself.</p><p>I know how this feels, been there many a time.</p><p></p><p>Please take care, holding you in my thoughts and praying for your peace.</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 674902, member: 19522"] Oh, Quicksand, please do not blame yourself. We are only human, what on earth could we do more? There are many times I examined my past, my mothering mistakes. It all boils down to time and circumstance. We trust others in community leadership roles to do right by our children, sometimes this does not happen. How would you know? Unfortunately we are learning that pedophiles are very cunning, at times placing themselves in roles where others trust them with their kids. How would you know? It is not your fault. Our adult children make choices, we cannot be there 24-7 to guide them. Our role as parents is to give them values and guidance that can carry them through the tough times in life, it is entirely up to them, to rely on those teachings. Oh, Quicksand, we have all been where you are at. Please do not put things on yourself you have no control over. We all are imperfect humans, we all make mistakes. Please do not fall in to the guilt trap, it does absolutely no good. I am hoping and praying that you come out of this quickly, and understand that you do not have that much power over your children to cause them disaster in their youth, or their adult lives. The guilt does not belong in your court, Quicksand, I am sure you loved your children, LOVE them, to your utmost. If you believe in a higher power, give this over, with your children. When the sadness, guilt and terrible feelings overcome my soul this is what I do. I look up and say "Dear Lord, this is too much for me to handle, you gifted my children to me, I did the best job I could, please, take them again and watch over them." I am praying that you slow.....way....down, take deep breaths, and do not be so harsh on yourself. I know how this feels, been there many a time. Please take care, holding you in my thoughts and praying for your peace. (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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