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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 688135" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>The things you asked of him were more than reasonable. So was making him leave and so is changing the locks because he likely has multiple copies of the key so he can sneak back in to the house to sleep or whatever. in my opinion you MUST change those locks simply because he lies and acts like he can play you for a fool. I know a lot of young adults who would give keys back to a landlord and then use copies to go party there during the week or month before it was re-rented. With your situation, it could be a long time before new tenants so he has a long time to come and go as he pleases unless/until you change the locks.</p><p></p><p>When my mother made my brother leave her house, she told him to go live the lifestyle he was willing to pay for, that he could afford on the wages he earned. He refused to finish college, which was a condition for living at home and he wanted to work min wage jobs and live with her cable tv, air conditioning, etc... and lecture her on how to spend her $$ and the evils of her job (teaching marketing which to him was teaching people to fool people so they buy things they don't need). He had zero problems living on the luxuries provided by her hard work and sanctimoniously lecturing her on the evils of that hard work. He worked hard at his jobs but told us all that his work as a landscaper or construction worker etc was somehow noble and so it was okay for him to live off of her education and hard work. </p><p></p><p>Your son does not want to work. He wants to live off of your money and lie to you. He will work, but needs supervision constantly and goes off with-o returning at the end of his break because he thought he could get away with it. Any other job would not keep him on with that type of behavior. Why should you? He needs to learn to live off of the fruits of his labors, whatever those might be. </p><p></p><p>Change those locks ASAP. You did a GOOD thing by imposing conditions and by making him leave. You did what any reasonable person would do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 688135, member: 1233"] The things you asked of him were more than reasonable. So was making him leave and so is changing the locks because he likely has multiple copies of the key so he can sneak back in to the house to sleep or whatever. in my opinion you MUST change those locks simply because he lies and acts like he can play you for a fool. I know a lot of young adults who would give keys back to a landlord and then use copies to go party there during the week or month before it was re-rented. With your situation, it could be a long time before new tenants so he has a long time to come and go as he pleases unless/until you change the locks. When my mother made my brother leave her house, she told him to go live the lifestyle he was willing to pay for, that he could afford on the wages he earned. He refused to finish college, which was a condition for living at home and he wanted to work min wage jobs and live with her cable tv, air conditioning, etc... and lecture her on how to spend her $$ and the evils of her job (teaching marketing which to him was teaching people to fool people so they buy things they don't need). He had zero problems living on the luxuries provided by her hard work and sanctimoniously lecturing her on the evils of that hard work. He worked hard at his jobs but told us all that his work as a landscaper or construction worker etc was somehow noble and so it was okay for him to live off of her education and hard work. Your son does not want to work. He wants to live off of your money and lie to you. He will work, but needs supervision constantly and goes off with-o returning at the end of his break because he thought he could get away with it. Any other job would not keep him on with that type of behavior. Why should you? He needs to learn to live off of the fruits of his labors, whatever those might be. Change those locks ASAP. You did a GOOD thing by imposing conditions and by making him leave. You did what any reasonable person would do. [/QUOTE]
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