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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 688368" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>A question, to A Dad (or anybody) . Would you be indifferent to your adult child's marijuana use if he spent on it everything he had, it was in your property, and he had a self-stated mood disorder, and the drug worsened his mood and apathy?</p><p></p><p>A dad, I loved your post. I got to this thread afraid of the gentle checks I would find here, because once again I am inventing a life for my son. To whit, this:</p><p></p><p>And this:</p><p></p><p>You see, that was only way I could live my life as a young person. The only way I knew.</p><p>This sentence stuns me. Of course you are correct. But how do you mature? Is it physical maturation? Is it the accretion of experience? </p><p></p><p>My son is maturity, I can say that--but he is in no way mature--and I dread that he will ever be "mature" enough to want to do any of the things I mentioned.</p><p></p><p>He could be a loving and responsible parent. He is a good friend. He loves me. </p><p></p><p>He does not want to, I think, hold a job for the foreseeable future. Is that OK? Is it any of my business?</p><p></p><p>A Dad: Do you think it is right for me to insist that he work?</p><p>I read this quote and I thought to myself, what is wrong with me? Why can I not settle down and accept what I have, as enough? Why am I never enough, to myself? Am I doing the same thing to my son?</p><p>So, again I am curious what you think made you an adjusted adult?</p><p></p><p>Thank you, A dad.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 688368, member: 18958"] A question, to A Dad (or anybody) . Would you be indifferent to your adult child's marijuana use if he spent on it everything he had, it was in your property, and he had a self-stated mood disorder, and the drug worsened his mood and apathy? A dad, I loved your post. I got to this thread afraid of the gentle checks I would find here, because once again I am inventing a life for my son. To whit, this: And this: You see, that was only way I could live my life as a young person. The only way I knew. This sentence stuns me. Of course you are correct. But how do you mature? Is it physical maturation? Is it the accretion of experience? My son is maturity, I can say that--but he is in no way mature--and I dread that he will ever be "mature" enough to want to do any of the things I mentioned. He could be a loving and responsible parent. He is a good friend. He loves me. He does not want to, I think, hold a job for the foreseeable future. Is that OK? Is it any of my business? A Dad: Do you think it is right for me to insist that he work? I read this quote and I thought to myself, what is wrong with me? Why can I not settle down and accept what I have, as enough? Why am I never enough, to myself? Am I doing the same thing to my son? So, again I am curious what you think made you an adjusted adult? Thank you, A dad. [/QUOTE]
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