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<blockquote data-quote="youngfool" data-source="post: 688503" data-attributes="member: 20219"><p>Ok so here's my two cents worth. It should not be up to you to be given drug test to an adult child at 16 17 while there are still under your control I can understand. But it seems to me that at your sons age it seems a little absurd that your parents still are trying to make you stop useing if you know anything about substance abuse the only way things turn around is when a light in there head goes off and only then no amount of test begging talking will change things it will always be a temporary win just waiting for relapse.i went through this with my x wife and now with my son it's no way to live waiting for the watching playing detective going through there clothes cars room. It will consume your life. Anything they say has to be looked at as if it is a lie they become so good at lies that it almost becomes a game so the way I see it I don't want to live that way it takes up all your time and energy and you can never relax because you will always be questioning what they say do go. In my opinion you have to let it play out in your heart you will know when it over when they get it no amount of talking common sense will work they don't think like us that is the basic problem they have a different approach to life there common sence is so different it's so hard to accept that someone is willing to let it all go to hell for a high to us it seems so easy there is a time and place for everything but to them that does not exist. They will watch everything around them crumble to the ground and blame everyone for it and continue on the same path. O they may be times when they do stop but it's only temporary they will find a reason to start again and the game starts all over lies lies and more lies it part of the sickness so you can take from this what you like only passing on what I've been through hope you think I'm beings harsh only trying to give you options if I didn't care I would not bother to comment anyway copa I thinking of you. You were a huge part of helping me get on with my life thank you for your time good luck lovely lady you are a very smart person follow your head not your heart bye for now</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="youngfool, post: 688503, member: 20219"] Ok so here's my two cents worth. It should not be up to you to be given drug test to an adult child at 16 17 while there are still under your control I can understand. But it seems to me that at your sons age it seems a little absurd that your parents still are trying to make you stop useing if you know anything about substance abuse the only way things turn around is when a light in there head goes off and only then no amount of test begging talking will change things it will always be a temporary win just waiting for relapse.i went through this with my x wife and now with my son it's no way to live waiting for the watching playing detective going through there clothes cars room. It will consume your life. Anything they say has to be looked at as if it is a lie they become so good at lies that it almost becomes a game so the way I see it I don't want to live that way it takes up all your time and energy and you can never relax because you will always be questioning what they say do go. In my opinion you have to let it play out in your heart you will know when it over when they get it no amount of talking common sense will work they don't think like us that is the basic problem they have a different approach to life there common sence is so different it's so hard to accept that someone is willing to let it all go to hell for a high to us it seems so easy there is a time and place for everything but to them that does not exist. They will watch everything around them crumble to the ground and blame everyone for it and continue on the same path. O they may be times when they do stop but it's only temporary they will find a reason to start again and the game starts all over lies lies and more lies it part of the sickness so you can take from this what you like only passing on what I've been through hope you think I'm beings harsh only trying to give you options if I didn't care I would not bother to comment anyway copa I thinking of you. You were a huge part of helping me get on with my life thank you for your time good luck lovely lady you are a very smart person follow your head not your heart bye for now [/QUOTE]
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