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<blockquote data-quote="TheWalrus" data-source="post: 688513" data-attributes="member: 19905"><p>I remember somewhere, probably propaganda of some kind, that there is a difference between a handout and a hand up. Propaganda or not, it is true. The difference is in the receiver. If the receiver takes help graciously and uses it as a stepping stone toward growth and independence, it is a hand up. If the receiver takes it as something owed or an entitlement, takes what they can for as long as they can without it being a catalyst for change and independence, moves on looking for new pathways and persons to receive from when old ones dry up, it is a handout (enabling). It has nothing to do with how much or little we give or the intent of the giving. It has to do with their reception of it. Just my thoughts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheWalrus, post: 688513, member: 19905"] I remember somewhere, probably propaganda of some kind, that there is a difference between a handout and a hand up. Propaganda or not, it is true. The difference is in the receiver. If the receiver takes help graciously and uses it as a stepping stone toward growth and independence, it is a hand up. If the receiver takes it as something owed or an entitlement, takes what they can for as long as they can without it being a catalyst for change and independence, moves on looking for new pathways and persons to receive from when old ones dry up, it is a handout (enabling). It has nothing to do with how much or little we give or the intent of the giving. It has to do with their reception of it. Just my thoughts. [/QUOTE]
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