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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 688562" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>TL is thanking you here, Darkwing, and I want to thank you again too.</p><p></p><p>You see, it is very hard to be us, the parents (or grandparents or aunts and uncles). We go to a very dark place when our children suffer, seem to reject us, reject our love, and treat us badly.</p><p></p><p>To survive, we get thick skinned. You have seen it. And then when there is hope, we peel that crust back, and we hope and love again--and we leave ourselves open. React in pain, with anger, and withdraw again. </p><p></p><p>What you are validating here, is both the love and hope and the need to stay present, not so much doubting, but defended. No. Not that. Present. Without judgment or blame. Of them or ourselves.</p><p></p><p>It is a tough place to stand. Facing reality. Not running from it. Or from our love for them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 688562, member: 18958"] TL is thanking you here, Darkwing, and I want to thank you again too. You see, it is very hard to be us, the parents (or grandparents or aunts and uncles). We go to a very dark place when our children suffer, seem to reject us, reject our love, and treat us badly. To survive, we get thick skinned. You have seen it. And then when there is hope, we peel that crust back, and we hope and love again--and we leave ourselves open. React in pain, with anger, and withdraw again. What you are validating here, is both the love and hope and the need to stay present, not so much doubting, but defended. No. Not that. Present. Without judgment or blame. Of them or ourselves. It is a tough place to stand. Facing reality. Not running from it. Or from our love for them. [/QUOTE]
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