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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 70011" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Susan,</p><p></p><p>I'm gonna try something with you.</p><p></p><p>"My son in jail" was a title to one of your posts. It was a very long, drawn out post. Perhaps because you did not know better. Perhaps because that is all you knew. Perhaps because you clung to it. For whatever reason, you chose to keep that post open way longer than he actually was in jail. I responded to you many, many times on that post, trying to help you detach, but you still seem to be struggling. </p><p></p><p>You just now started a new post. I was very happy to see that! But you started out by saying "I was formerly 'my son in jail'". </p><p></p><p>"My son in Jail" does not define you. You are letting it define you. You are letting it consume you. "I am the lady with the son in jail." And now "I am the lady with the son in a dump". You know what? Your son has a roof over his head. There are many warrior moms here who are not sure if their child has one of those. I am not trying to pick on you, I am trying to put this into perspective.</p><p></p><p>When your son tries to blame you, it is not because he believes it is your fault. It is because he is trying to lay a guilt trip on you. And it is working! Don't let it. He is playing you like a violin. Don't allow that. </p><p></p><p>Don't you have a wedding to think about? Stop letting your son and his BS own you. Remember, "my son in jail" does not define you.</p><p></p><p>"Stands with courage". THAT defines you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 70011, member: 3647"] Susan, I'm gonna try something with you. "My son in jail" was a title to one of your posts. It was a very long, drawn out post. Perhaps because you did not know better. Perhaps because that is all you knew. Perhaps because you clung to it. For whatever reason, you chose to keep that post open way longer than he actually was in jail. I responded to you many, many times on that post, trying to help you detach, but you still seem to be struggling. You just now started a new post. I was very happy to see that! But you started out by saying "I was formerly 'my son in jail'". "My son in Jail" does not define you. You are letting it define you. You are letting it consume you. "I am the lady with the son in jail." And now "I am the lady with the son in a dump". You know what? Your son has a roof over his head. There are many warrior moms here who are not sure if their child has one of those. I am not trying to pick on you, I am trying to put this into perspective. When your son tries to blame you, it is not because he believes it is your fault. It is because he is trying to lay a guilt trip on you. And it is working! Don't let it. He is playing you like a violin. Don't allow that. Don't you have a wedding to think about? Stop letting your son and his BS own you. Remember, "my son in jail" does not define you. "Stands with courage". THAT defines you. [/QUOTE]
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