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<blockquote data-quote="hearthope" data-source="post: 72105" data-attributes="member: 2389"><p>The courtdate is for his disorderly conduct charge right?</p><p></p><p>This is the charge he blamed you for because you wouldn't let him come home right?</p><p></p><p>You have got to let go of the guilt you feel. He chose to do what he did, that would not have been your choice for him, but he is making his own choices.</p><p></p><p>Blaming you for his mistakes let's you know he is not ready to change.</p><p></p><p>Being put in jail may be a wake up call for him. He needs to see that continuing to make the bad decisions he makes will put him where he doesn't want to be.</p><p></p><p>There has to be consequences for his actions, if you continue to help him he will never learn to stand on his own two feet.</p><p></p><p>Things happen for a reason, maybe if he is in jail you and your daughter won't have to worry about him coming to the wedding and you won't be so worried about where he is living and you can be there for your daughter.</p><p></p><p>As far as being in jail on his b'day, I agree that is hard to swallow yet, my son turned 17 in juvie, he turned 18 in juvie, and now he will turn 19 in adult jail.</p><p></p><p>You will survive it. My son being in jail has been a blessing. He is finally taking responsibility for his actions and seeing that he can't continue down the same path.</p><p></p><p>As long as I was bailing him out of trouble and giving him chance after chance to make a change by 'helping' him along ~I WAS CRIPPLING HIM TO CONTINUE THE SAME PATH HE WAS GOING DOWN, NOT UNTIL I TOTALLY LET GO DID HE WAKE UP.</p><p></p><p>It is in the deepest maternal love possible that you gain the strength to let them fall down. </p><p></p><p>It is much harder to step back than it is to reach out a hand, yet you have to let them fall so that they will have a chance to live...</p><p></p><p></p><p>Traci</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearthope, post: 72105, member: 2389"] The courtdate is for his disorderly conduct charge right? This is the charge he blamed you for because you wouldn't let him come home right? You have got to let go of the guilt you feel. He chose to do what he did, that would not have been your choice for him, but he is making his own choices. Blaming you for his mistakes let's you know he is not ready to change. Being put in jail may be a wake up call for him. He needs to see that continuing to make the bad decisions he makes will put him where he doesn't want to be. There has to be consequences for his actions, if you continue to help him he will never learn to stand on his own two feet. Things happen for a reason, maybe if he is in jail you and your daughter won't have to worry about him coming to the wedding and you won't be so worried about where he is living and you can be there for your daughter. As far as being in jail on his b'day, I agree that is hard to swallow yet, my son turned 17 in juvie, he turned 18 in juvie, and now he will turn 19 in adult jail. You will survive it. My son being in jail has been a blessing. He is finally taking responsibility for his actions and seeing that he can't continue down the same path. As long as I was bailing him out of trouble and giving him chance after chance to make a change by 'helping' him along ~I WAS CRIPPLING HIM TO CONTINUE THE SAME PATH HE WAS GOING DOWN, NOT UNTIL I TOTALLY LET GO DID HE WAKE UP. It is in the deepest maternal love possible that you gain the strength to let them fall down. It is much harder to step back than it is to reach out a hand, yet you have to let them fall so that they will have a chance to live... Traci [/QUOTE]
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