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<blockquote data-quote="Handful" data-source="post: 763352" data-attributes="member: 27176"><p>Thank you for the kind words. We have been in therapy for years, have done so much DBT and parent groups and IOP and PHP and even though he left the sober house without our knowledge, he was still going to his therapy. He just thought he was smarter and faster and stronger than everyone and that consequences would not ever fall on him. He got such a charge out of his various double lives and he was able to mask really well. I know that no one is responsible for my son's death but him. </p><p></p><p>I think I was not clear before. I am not angry at our daughter because she didn't tell us what she knew. (Ok, maybe a very tiny bit because we couldn't find him and the hospital couldn't find us, he was not identified. Maybe I could have held his warm hand one more time, but the hospital took him off life support. I would never say any of this to her or in front of any child, but I understand that this board has many parents who have been through sad, rough times with their children so I feel ok writing it here. I know she is young (almost 20) and I know she has some of the same mental health issues that prevent her from wholly being in the real world, we adopted them as sibling group after we had fostered them a long time. I do admit to being ticked at the probation officer who okayed his move-out but did not get an address, and that guy didn't even try to find my kid when he knew something was wrong. I have a personal therapist, though, and I bite my bitter tongue around all the kids because I don't want to taint our family with negativity.) I think I am struggling now because I saw how she stoked her brother's fantasies. She bragged about the partying she was doing, and borrowed money from him—that he earned at his job, she got fired from hers—to buy drugs when she knew he was doing a court-ordered sober living program. They started one-upping each other with terrible drugs and risky behavior. Of course therapists and doctors and psychiatrists and family counselors and teachers had explained the dangers, for years. </p><p></p><p>I'm just so sad that he spent so long trying to be better, and we worked hard to get him treatment and resources, we supported every sports activity or creative endeavor he ever wanted to do, and then he only made it two days on his own.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Handful, post: 763352, member: 27176"] Thank you for the kind words. We have been in therapy for years, have done so much DBT and parent groups and IOP and PHP and even though he left the sober house without our knowledge, he was still going to his therapy. He just thought he was smarter and faster and stronger than everyone and that consequences would not ever fall on him. He got such a charge out of his various double lives and he was able to mask really well. I know that no one is responsible for my son's death but him. I think I was not clear before. I am not angry at our daughter because she didn't tell us what she knew. (Ok, maybe a very tiny bit because we couldn't find him and the hospital couldn't find us, he was not identified. Maybe I could have held his warm hand one more time, but the hospital took him off life support. I would never say any of this to her or in front of any child, but I understand that this board has many parents who have been through sad, rough times with their children so I feel ok writing it here. I know she is young (almost 20) and I know she has some of the same mental health issues that prevent her from wholly being in the real world, we adopted them as sibling group after we had fostered them a long time. I do admit to being ticked at the probation officer who okayed his move-out but did not get an address, and that guy didn't even try to find my kid when he knew something was wrong. I have a personal therapist, though, and I bite my bitter tongue around all the kids because I don't want to taint our family with negativity.) I think I am struggling now because I saw how she stoked her brother's fantasies. She bragged about the partying she was doing, and borrowed money from him—that he earned at his job, she got fired from hers—to buy drugs when she knew he was doing a court-ordered sober living program. They started one-upping each other with terrible drugs and risky behavior. Of course therapists and doctors and psychiatrists and family counselors and teachers had explained the dangers, for years. I'm just so sad that he spent so long trying to be better, and we worked hard to get him treatment and resources, we supported every sports activity or creative endeavor he ever wanted to do, and then he only made it two days on his own. [/QUOTE]
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